What is the point of homosexuality?

[Calandale]

I think it's a mixture of genes and experiences.

Indeed.

Sexuality is so complex though.  I don't think it could be lumped into just three holes:  heterosexual, bisexual and homosexual.  I much prefer Kinsey's scale.

I'm  willing to try new holes, if you've got any to offer. 

[Calandale]

How do I switch off that bloody post reminder thingy? 

It's in profile settings.

[Calandale]

the way you were brought up i mean, most people who were abused sexually as kids have fucked up sexual identities

No shit. Which brings up the point that pedophilic tendencies
are probably NOT related to more acceptable tastes.

Often, otherwise straight men, are molesters of young boys.

[Calandale]

Well then you're not gay
Either you're gay, or you're not
A lot of it comes down to being in denial
Usually when someone just "doesn't notice" that they're gay, it's because of denial

Have any of you known someone who didn't notice,
and after they came out still contended that?

I have, and to me, it kinda throws the whole denial issue
into question.

[Sophgay]

Well then you're not gay
Either you're gay, or you're not
A lot of it comes down to being in denial
Usually when someone just "doesn't notice" that they're gay, it's because of denial

Have any of you known someone who didn't notice,
and after they came out still contended that?

I have, and to me, it kinda throws the whole denial issue
into question.

still contended that they didn't notice?

[Calandale]

the way you were brought up i mean, most people who were abused sexually as kids have fucked up sexual identities

Maybe so, but that doesn't make them a true homosexual.

 

Reminds me of my PE's term, "straight lesbians"

[Calandale]

Well then you're not gay
Either you're gay, or you're not
A lot of it comes down to being in denial
Usually when someone just "doesn't notice" that they're gay, it's because of denial

Have any of you known someone who didn't notice,
and after they came out still contended that?

I have, and to me, it kinda throws the whole denial issue
into question.

still contended that they didn't notice?

Exactly. Though, I don't know how much I trust the guy.
He had been seen kissing some guy, back when he was still
claiming that. So, I was kinda wondering if anyone knew someone
whom they did mostly trust, who did hold to that.

[Sophgay]

don't think so
i've never really discussed suff like this with any gay/bi people i knew IRL

[Persona]

What is a "tru" homosexual anyway?

Someone who never touched the opposite gender?

People can and DO change their minds.  I knew a girl who was sure that she was a lesbian but then became convinced that she's not.  After going through a couple of boys she realised that she is indeed gay.

There is so much stigma attached to this all.  Girls cannot admit to being bi in the gay community otherwise they'll never get a girlfriend.  At least not in the "scene". 

What's the point of labels anyway.  They are fucking useless.  Why do people even feel the need to define themselves in some way?  Pathetic really.

[Sophgay]

People can and DO change their minds.  I knew a girl who was sure that she was a lesbian but then became convinced that she's not.  After going through a couple of boys she realised that she is indeed gay.

so then she's probably gay
but whatever she is, that's what she is
she wasn't gay, then turned straight, then went gay again
she just wasn't sure or whatever

[Persona]

I discussed this with way too many people.

Gay people, left-wingers, right-wingers and neo-nazis too.

The last one was fucking scary.

[Persona]

Pretty obvious she wasn't sure.  Or maybe wanted to experiment.

Anyway, giving labels to things is pointless methinks.

[Calandale]

There is so much stigma attached to this all.  Girls cannot admit to being bi in the gay community otherwise they'll never get a girlfriend.  At least not in the "scene". 

Yeah, I hate this shit.
The only people who claim
to be bi seem to be poseurs,
and probably a good portion of those
claiming to be gay or straight are actually bi.

[SovaNu]

i'm bi, i like guys more usually but some girls really turn me on. i'm not a fucking poser.

[richard]

lets see some pics or videos lemon