they shouldn't need to be "raised as a girl" or "raised as a boy" anyway IMO. although i know no one will agree with me. they should be raised as individual kids, regardless of what gender or sex they are
I absolutely agree with you, Soph.
Sometimes, it's tough doing that, though.
Like with my daughter, I tried to have just as many "boy" toys for her when she was little as "girl" toys and I had as many gender neutral toys as possible.
How you dress kids can be a problem for some parents, because there are not many unisex choices for children older than babies.
I dress her as a girl but I try to take any preference she has into account.
For example, she tends to like comfortable clothes because of her sensory issues, so most of her clothes are cotton knit fabric.
She hates black and white striped things and bar codes, so she does not have any clothing like that.