I have no clue. I tend to leave and be by myself doing my own thing while the other people socialize. My work threw a Christmas party one last year and it turned out to be socializing for adults and games for the kids, so my boyfriend and I left.
Shows how different I am, no offense. I was told I had HFA, I miss people from school, according to my therapist, who I saw like 4 months ago, aspie socializie more than people with HFA. What is going through your minds I wonder. Judgemental people exaust you or something? Do you look at them when you talk? I still socialize when I am tired and don't feel like it, just because of wanting to not look like a dick. Even when I had trauma, unaware, I didn't get heachache, socialize plenty with my grandmother who is quite, whole weekend, with heavy labor load she gave me.
I can talk to people but I talk up a storm. I notice I am doing most of the talking. Sometimes people will talk to me but to get me to talk, they have to ask me questions. But if they say "Hi" I will say "hi" back.
About looking at people, it depends. If it's my family, I can look at them but people not related to me or strangers, I am not looking at them. I have to be comfortable to do it. I say it's my shyness but I hardly look at anyone's eyes.
But I can find myself looking at someone if they have something interesting on them for me to look at like if they are fat or I like their outfit and I just love staring at it. sadly I couldn't fool my shrink with it, she said if I was looking at her face, then she wouldn't know I wasn't looking at her eyes. Now I wonder how many other people knew I wasn't really giving them eye contact. I wonder if that's what fake eye contact is?
Damn why do people have to look at other people's eyes, we have ears, we can hear. I have always refused to look at people as they speak and teachers would tell me "Look at me." It was so annoying. They still tell me after I would look at them and turn away.
Then I started saying in my teens, "I have ears." That took care of the problem it seems like because they sure stopped telling me "Look at me."
About judgemental people, they piss me off. I correct them if they are wrong about someone or me because isn't everyone judgmental? We're all human and we do that but the ones who don't listen after you correct them, then they piss me off. How stupid can they be? Or maybe they don't believe me. My ex pissed me off with his ignorance and false assumptions so I stayed to drive him crazy until I started living with my aunt and uncle.
My ex. called it a game and my boyfriend told me "so you really were playing a game" after telling him what I did to my ex.
I guess playing games also means pissing off a ignorant person delibarately.
