calandale why are you being so mean to soph?
Fine. I'll answer that fairly. These are my real views about soph.
I've expressed them a number of times. I like her, but always feel
that she needs to see this. Most who've told her end up pissing her
off, and getting into recriminations - all of which turn ugly. I DON'T
want that to happen, but I always feel that someone needs to
grab her by the ears, shake her, and show her what she seems.
That, and (because Callaway is always right) I gain enough energy to
try these things, in my general lashing out at everything, when I am
disappointed in something. Perhaps this IS a matter of narcissistic
tearing others down - but that doesn't make it less true. It's certainly
what I see and believe.