Am I going to eventually lose him?

[Alex179]

I am pretty sure he was waiting for her to be ready, him not having a real choice in the matter makes it not really voluntary.   It is being pretty damn patient.  Waiting a year to have sex with your girlfriend?  It is inevitable that he would get antsy after a while. That is pretty much unheard of, outside of religious types.   I could not do it, personally.   I think he just wanted to lose his virginity, the coming months will tell her how often he really wants to have sex.   It is a little early in their sex life to determine how often he wants to get it on.   There isn't exactly much of a sample size.

No shit, sherlock.

You can call me Captain Obvious, dear Watson.   She still has yet to find out if her boyfriend was a sex addict waiting to happen or if he has a normal sex drive.   The guy bothered her about it quite a bit, his virginity played a huge role in why he bothered her about sex.   She didn't know his sexual appetite beforehand due to him being a virgin.   Usually you would find out earlier than one year into the relationship whether the person wants to fuck more often than you want to.

[Calandale]

Well look, if the fact of the matter is
that he's not going to get much anyhow,
and she'll put out, now and then, I don't
see a problem.

I just think that they ought to be open
about expectations, and come to a decision,
rather than each be coming from different
assumptions.

[Alex179]

Yeah he isn't going to get it very often.   He knew she was not into sex going into the relationship probably, so its not like he has false expectations.  They should talk out their expectations, I agree.  I don't think they should agree upon a # of times they have sex each month or anything.   That just takes the spontaneity out of sex, which imo isn't good.

[Calandale]

Sticking to hard numbers is probably NOT a
great idea, but hashing them out, as a
guideline may not be so bad.

I know what you mean about the spontaneity.
My wife basically had a deal with me, where
she would give me anal, any time I asked a
day in advance. I don't think I ever used that.

Then again, I don't like asking.

[The_P]

I haven't really gotten the view that he's
someone who wants to have sex ALL the
time. Hell, look how long it took.

Now, if having sex is simply impossible for
someone, it seems perfectly reasonable to
me, to consider other options. One of those
options is to open up the relationship, in at
least that regard. The thing is, they may share
something which is more important than sex
can ever be, to either of them. Something which
is much more difficult to find.

*snort*  And I'm suuuuuuure he was voluntarily celibate up 'till now.

SpokaneGirl can handle driving a car, manage a job, and has the mental capacity to say no to something she isn't keen on.

Butt out: she's a fucking adult.

[Calandale]

WTF? This has NOTHING to do with thinking otherwise.

[The_P]

WTF? This has NOTHING to do with thinking otherwise.

I phail? Oh wells.

Not embarrassed by it.

[Calandale]

WTF? This has NOTHING to do with thinking otherwise.

I phail? Oh wells.

Not embarrassed by it.

You should NEVER be embarrassed of what
you're best at.

[The_P]

WTF? This has NOTHING to do with thinking otherwise.

I phail? Oh wells.

Not embarrassed by it.

You should NEVER be embarrassed of what
you're best at.

Quit being such a snide whore of shameless sublety, and just come out with the fact that I'm an idiot, Canderel -- I can take it.

[Calandale]

WTF? This has NOTHING to do with thinking otherwise.

I phail? Oh wells.

Not embarrassed by it.

You should NEVER be embarrassed of what
you're best at.

Quit being such a snide whore of shameless sublety, and just come out with the fact that I'm an idiot, Canderel -- I can take it.

There's NO humor in blatant methods
such as you use.

[The_P]

WTF? This has NOTHING to do with thinking otherwise.

I phail? Oh wells.

Not embarrassed by it.

You should NEVER be embarrassed of what
you're best at.

Quit being such a snide whore of shameless sublety, and just come out with the fact that I'm an idiot, Canderel -- I can take it.

There's NO humor in blatant methods
such as you use.

Guess what, you deluded motherfucker? I don't care.

Do you know why? It's because the world does not revolve around your trival opinions, you silly narcissist.

[Calandale]

Guess what, you deluded motherfucker? I don't care.

Do you know why? It's because the world does not revolve around your trival opinions, you silly narcissist.

More likely, you simply lack the talent to manage it.

Much easier to just hurl playground insults about.

[The_P]

Guess what, you deluded motherfucker? I don't care.

Do you know why? It's because the world does not revolve around your trival opinions, you silly narcissist.

More likely, you simply lack the talent to manage it.

Much easier to just hurl playground insults about.

Damn straight: it's much easier to hurl playground insults when you don't even have to try with the low-rate spam whore of I2.

Now that's been resolved, go back to your corner.

[Calandale]

Guess what, you deluded motherfucker? I don't care.

Do you know why? It's because the world does not revolve around your trival opinions, you silly narcissist.

More likely, you simply lack the talent to manage it.

Much easier to just hurl playground insults about.

Damn straight: it's much easier to hurl playground insults when you don't even have to try with the low-rate spam whore of I2.

Now that's been resolved, go back to your corner.

Not too shabby. Still, I'm the BEST spam whore there is,
so, 'tis a bit unfair. Others could touch my numbers, but
none my talent.

But, keep playing. Maybe you'll learn to rise above the
level that you've been at. Surely, you see how pathetic
those who are like you come off?

[renaeden]