Do you talk about your ex's to your partner/spouse?

[Peter]

I had a girl tell me that I was much better at sex than her ex.  She said she'd thought her sex-life was good before, but I think he just fucked her and didn't do other other stuff.

She still had weird commitments to the ex, though, and was protecting him even though he was a violent, schizophrenic asshole who hurt her and did crazy things like hide in her house to access her computer and threatened her with knives and cut her and stuff.  I got sick of the stress of it, since she wouldn't let me help, and told her to stop telling me about it.  I broke up with her soon after.

[El]

I generally try not to; my Current will talk about girls he's dated, but it's not a big deal, and he said he doesn't mind if I talk about mine.  However, I told him I wanted him to be reacting to me and not to my ex when he was with me (ie not trying to not be the things about my ex I hated), so I said I didn't want to talk much about my ex.  When my Current hangs around with my friends, it will sometimes come up (it's a female-dominated group and we indulge in the occasional rant), but I have yet to really get into the specifics of what went wrong.  I'm guessing I'll tell him more eventually.  Actually, I told him when I was concerned/pissed about being "monitored," but it was more like "this is why I am in a bad mood and kinda looking over my shoulder a lot" than anything else, as I had just found out about a small part of it.

I'm sort of going for the slow reveal, I guess, on Ex1 and on some of the other crappy parts of my past (on the same react-to-me-not-my-past principle- which I also explained), though I did tell him awhile back that if he had any questions he wanted to ask, at this point I was OK with telling him, and I have told him a fair bit about my family.

[The_P]

Sure, I talk about my imaginary exs to my imaginary girlfriend all the damn time.

[El]

Sure, I talk about my imaginary exs to my imaginary girlfriend all the damn time.

That's a bad idea.  You should talk about your eimaginary exes to your imaginary friends and keep the time you spend with your imaginary girlfriend as precious and special.

[jman]

In my experience I only talk about an ex a lot if I can't get over them, otherwise exes are exes for a reason and should stay where they belong...

in the past and forgotten about.

[The_P]

Sure, I talk about my imaginary exs to my imaginary girlfriend all the damn time.

That's a bad idea.  You should talk about your eimaginary exes to your imaginary friends and keep the time you spend with your imaginary girlfriend as precious and special.

Facetious advice to a facetious statement of mine. I facetiously genuflect to you in gratitude.

[El]

Sure, I talk about my imaginary exs to my imaginary girlfriend all the damn time.

That's a bad idea.  You should talk about your eimaginary exes to your imaginary friends and keep the time you spend with your imaginary girlfriend as precious and special.

Facetious advice to a facetious statement of mine. I facetiously genuflect to you in gratitude.

why thank you

Punctuate to preference.

In my experience I only talk about an ex a lot if I can't get over them, otherwise exes are exes for a reason and should stay where they belong...

in the past and forgotten about.

"In the past and forgotten about" is one route to go, though I do feel compelled to adapt that old joke:

I prefer my exes like I prefer my coffee.
Ground up and in my freezer.

[The_P]

Peter Mackenzie lives life to the full by shopping at Asda and using the public toilets.

The coolest people I know go to Morrisons.

[Catrona]

i do in the sense that any time i talk about stuff ive done with friends... cause it just happens that pretty much my only friends have been my bfs.  some buys dont mind some do... but i tend to not compare them in any way in conversation.  i dont see a point in that.

[The_P]

i do in the sense that any time i talk about stuff ive done with friends... cause it just happens that pretty much my only friends have been my bfs.  some buys dont mind some do... but i tend to not compare them in any way in conversation.  i dont see a point in that.

Not even the subject of "penis size spectrum"?

[SovaNu]

Peter Mackenzie lives life to the full by shopping at Asda and using the public toilets.

The coolest people I know go to Morrisons.

i'm cooler. i go to M&S.

[ozymandias]

No, I don't like doing that unless there's a real point to be made.

Ditto

[duncvis]

We occasionally talk about exes in passing but it isnt a subject that often has relevance. bearing in mind that we've  been together a long time so it isnt a subject likely to cause any uneasy twinges anyway. and owt since we got together has already been pretty much talked out, where necessary.

[ozymandias]

We occasionally talk about exes in passing but it isnt a subject that often has relevance. bearing in mind that we've  been together a long time so it isnt a subject likely to cause any uneasy twinges anyway. and owt since we got together has already been pretty much talked out, where necessary.

QFT, I discussed my ex-gf's with my wife before we got married as an exercise in trust and honesty as she did the same.  16 years later it rarely comes up except as a reference point, as in how lucky I was to dodge those "bullets" and wind up with the woman I have.

[Catrona]

i do in the sense that any time i talk about stuff ive done with friends... cause it just happens that pretty much my only friends have been my bfs.  some buys dont mind some do... but i tend to not compare them in any way in conversation.  i dont see a point in that.

Not even the subject of "penis size spectrum"?

not that any of them ever asked about the penis-size of my exes... nope, not even to "gf"s