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Do you talk about your ex's to your partner/spouse?
« on: November 23, 2007, 03:03:30 PM »
I talk about my ex's to my BF all the time and he doesn't mind it. He says it's because they're all negative. I also do jokes about my last BF too. When my parents were here visiting, I was checking my bank account online seeing how much money I have in my account and I said "I have more money than Gary, I wonder what he would think of this if he saw how much have? 'That's because you don't manage it.'"
To him if you don't ever spend your money on fun stuff, you're not managing your money. That's his definition of managing your money.
I didn't have a job so I had to save my money, what did he expect, me spend all my money on fun stuff and fore I know it I'm broke and have to borrow money from my parents.
My mother started laughing and said "I think I know why you like talking about him so much?' and I said "why?" and she said "because you want to show him how good you're doing and how wrong he was about you."
Then she started telling my BF how much he was holding me back telling me what I couldn't do like I can't ride the bus alone because it's unsafe for women, can't go downtown alone because of so much crime,  etc. and he said he knows because I already told him.

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Re: Do you talk about your ex's to your partner/spouse?
« Reply #1 on: November 23, 2007, 03:08:31 PM »
Not if I don't want to sleep on the couch
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Re: Do you talk about your ex's to your partner/spouse?
« Reply #2 on: November 23, 2007, 04:09:42 PM »

Yeah, of course, and we did all that ages before we got together permanently. It can be a slippery slope if your relationship is not stable.

Now, we rarely bring up any other person to the other one. If one of us does want to talk about an old love, it is to try to form our relationship into a better, stronger union. Definitely not to make the other one feel inadequate. We actually have a very strong relationship, for which I am eternally grateful!
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Re: Do you talk about your ex's to your partner/spouse?
« Reply #3 on: November 23, 2007, 05:20:56 PM »
No, I don't like doing that unless there's a real point to be made.
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Re: Do you talk about your ex's to your partner/spouse?
« Reply #4 on: November 23, 2007, 08:02:42 PM »
No, I don't like doing that unless there's a real point to be made.
Same.
GA will talk about his ex and previous crushes and still has lots of pictures of them. He also talks about attractive girls he sees. I don't know what to feel about it. :-\
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Re: Do you talk about your ex's to your partner/spouse?
« Reply #5 on: November 23, 2007, 08:08:08 PM »
No, I don't like doing that unless there's a real point to be made.

Like, "my ex partner was such a better fuck than you, get your shit together in the bedroom or fuck off".

Yeah, only if there's an important point to be made, like that, or otherwise it can just cause arguments  :laugh:

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Re: Do you talk about your ex's to your partner/spouse?
« Reply #6 on: November 23, 2007, 08:16:23 PM »
i don't talk about my ex partners with my wife.  i just show her the videos.
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Re: Do you talk about your ex's to your partner/spouse?
« Reply #7 on: November 23, 2007, 10:53:05 PM »
I talk about ex partners sometimes, but stop when it seems to be pissing off the current partner.

I don't think talking about previous partners should be a problem, but draw the line at endless complaints about a previous partner, or comparisons intended to make the current partner look bad.
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Re: Do you talk about your ex's to your partner/spouse?
« Reply #8 on: November 23, 2007, 11:25:01 PM »
i think it's fine to talk about EXs if one wants to. jealousy should have no place in a healthy relationship. imo.
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Re: Do you talk about your ex's to your partner/spouse?
« Reply #9 on: November 24, 2007, 03:17:50 AM »
I do to a limited extent, but not a lot.

I did talk about my ex to my husband a lot in the past, but then my husband was my best friend who listened to me vent.  He talked to me about his exes as well as other girls he developed crushes on, and sometimes we gave each other advice.

Sometimes my ex will come up in a conversation now for some reason, but I would never talk about him to make my husband feel bad.

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Re: Do you talk about your ex's to your partner/spouse?
« Reply #10 on: November 24, 2007, 04:04:12 AM »
I did once, when my then current boyfriend did it. But he just got mad. Weird piece of person.
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Re: Do you talk about your ex's to your partner/spouse?
« Reply #11 on: November 24, 2007, 04:06:16 AM »
I did once, when my then current boyfriend did it. But he just got mad. Weird piece of person.

He talked about his ex and then he got mad when you talked about yours?

That's kind of a double standard, isn't it?

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Re: Do you talk about your ex's to your partner/spouse?
« Reply #12 on: November 24, 2007, 04:09:52 AM »
I did once, when my then current boyfriend did it. But he just got mad. Weird piece of person.

He talked about his ex and then he got mad when you talked about yours?

That's kind of a double standard, isn't it?
Kinda why he is my ex nowadays.
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Re: Do you talk about your ex's to your partner/spouse?
« Reply #13 on: November 24, 2007, 04:11:04 AM »
Always have. I like to share memories that
are important. They're all we really are.

The only danger is in reading too much
into how someone's been in the past,
as an indicator of future behavior. I'm
used to being something so different
from whatever anyone's experienced
before, that their past relationships
don't really give much helpful information.

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Re: Do you talk about your ex's to your partner/spouse?
« Reply #14 on: November 24, 2007, 04:13:41 AM »
I did once, when my then current boyfriend did it. But he just got mad. Weird piece of person.

He talked about his ex and then he got mad when you talked about yours?

That's kind of a double standard, isn't it?
Kinda why he is my ex nowadays.

My ex was full of double standards too, which is one of the many reasons that he's my ex.