And there's a difference between being aspergian and being diagnosably aspergian. You can have autistic traits left and right, but if your life is going okay and you're happy like you are, DSM says you can't be diagnosed. Depending on your mood, you might be diagnosable one day but not the next. But, unless you build your life around DSM, there's no bright line dividing aspies from NTs, so you don't need to consider yourself to be permanently stuck in either camp. You can be on the fence.