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Re: My Girlfriend say We were having a Argument but.
« Reply #15 on: November 07, 2007, 12:32:28 PM »
Kevv has a girlfriend now?
Yeah. been since September.

B-b-b-but how? You're depressed and shit.

Is this relationship of yours a real-life or a cyber-based one? You need to be a little less vague.
I have been trying to more sociable. So I have been trying to get out more. I meant Her on a outing. Which We got to know eachother and became boyfriend and girlfriend.

Is the sex good?
We have not had sex yet. This is becuase of Me.
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Re: My Girlfriend say We were having a Argument but.
« Reply #16 on: November 07, 2007, 12:34:01 PM »
Foreplay should be enough, I would do anything like that without precautions.  2%chane of pregnancy with birthcontroll is enough to make me worried, considering how much work I put into my body.
She can not get pregnant She got Herself fixed.
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Re: My Girlfriend say We were having a Argument but.
« Reply #17 on: November 07, 2007, 12:38:48 PM »
To her?  Maybe she thinks you lack tact.

Why not her? Know your facts before you jump to conclusions.

I can't say much though... :P

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Re: My Girlfriend say We were having a Argument but.
« Reply #18 on: November 07, 2007, 12:41:45 PM »
If She thinks it's an argument, then it's an argument.  How do you tell??  I don't know... I think it has to do with how emotionally she's involved with the subject at hand.  If she feels really strongly one way and you contradict that, then that's gotta be an argument.  The relationship is new, so you probably don't know her tells yet, you've gotta watch her closely to see if she's just discussing or if she's upset out it.  Once you know her better, and what she stands firmly on, then you'll have a much better idea of whether you're having an argument or just a discussion.  When all else fails though, just ask.
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Re: My Girlfriend say We were having a Argument but.
« Reply #19 on: November 07, 2007, 02:03:51 PM »
If She thinks it's an argument, then it's an argument.  How do you tell??  I don't know... I think it has to do with how emotionally she's involved with the subject at hand.  If she feels really strongly one way and you contradict that, then that's gotta be an argument.  The relationship is new, so you probably don't know her tells yet, you've gotta watch her closely to see if she's just discussing or if she's upset out it.  Once you know her better, and what she stands firmly on, then you'll have a much better idea of whether you're having an argument or just a discussion.  When all else fails though, just ask.

That's good advice, Tesla.

 :plus:

Focus on compromise or peace, and not the details.
To Me it was just a discussion which We were discussing a issue. But to Her it was argument. I have been confused by this. I let Her see it as She see it and don't argue about it. But it has confused Me though.

That is also good advice, Randy.

 :plus:

I guess that a discussion becomes an argument when one of the two people discussing the issue becomes upset, so if either person thinks that the discussion has turned into an argument, then it has.

What my husband and I try to do if one of us becomes upset in a discussion is we try to take a step back and figure out what is wrong, whether this is something that we can compromise about and if not, then who cares more about the issue, so we do pretty much the same thing that you are doing.

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Re: My Girlfriend say We were having a Argument but.
« Reply #20 on: November 07, 2007, 02:39:53 PM »
I say that my wife and I never argued, because
if either of us got upset (usually her, as I enjoy
heated discussions), they'd simply go get some
space, and time for themself. This seemed to
work pretty well, but may have contributed in
not communicating enough. The feelings have
a chance to hide, and never really get hacked
out completely - plus, there's no make up sex.

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Re: My Girlfriend say We were having a Argument but.
« Reply #21 on: November 07, 2007, 02:50:52 PM »
I say that my wife and I never argued, because
if either of us got upset (usually her, as I enjoy
heated discussions), they'd simply go get some
space, and time for themself. This seemed to
work pretty well, but may have contributed in
not communicating enough. The feelings have
a chance to hide, and never really get hacked
out completely - plus, there's no make up sex.

i disagree, you asshole.

you horny yet? :P
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Re: My Girlfriend say We were having a Argument but.
« Reply #22 on: November 07, 2007, 02:57:27 PM »
Kevv, is your girlfriend on the spectrum? And in any case, does she know enough about ASDs to realise that you may not always "read" people as well as they expect? To me, Tesla's advise is good: ask her.
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Re: My Girlfriend say We were having a Argument but.
« Reply #23 on: November 07, 2007, 02:57:54 PM »


i disagree, you angel fluffy bunnah.

you horny yet? :P

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Re: My Girlfriend say We were having a Argument but.
« Reply #24 on: November 07, 2007, 03:41:24 PM »
Kevv, is your girlfriend on the spectrum? And in any case, does she know enough about ASDs to realise that you may not always "read" people as well as they expect? To me, Tesla's advise is good: ask her.
No, I have told Her about ASDs and explained this to. Though She does deal with Her own depression.

I agree with Tesla.

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Re: My Girlfriend say We were having a Argument but.
« Reply #25 on: November 07, 2007, 06:35:29 PM »
I concur that in the case of a relationship, the key part is probably whether or not you or your partner are getting upset.

Also try not to argue about whether or not you were arguing.  XD
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Re: My Girlfriend say We were having a Argument but.
« Reply #26 on: November 10, 2007, 07:49:26 PM »
Also try not to argue about whether or not you were arguing.  XD

yeah. that one can drag on a bit if you aren't careful.  :asthing:

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Re: My Girlfriend say We were having a Argument but.
« Reply #27 on: November 11, 2007, 08:46:07 PM »
Foreplay should be enough, I would do anything like that without precautions.  2%chane of pregnancy with birthcontroll is enough to make me worried, considering how much work I put into my body.

Um, Flo... I'm not sure how to break this to you, but if there's a pregnancy, you're not the one who'll swell up like a hippo.  At least, I really hope not.
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Re: My Girlfriend say We were having a Argument but.
« Reply #28 on: November 11, 2007, 11:10:07 PM »
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Re: My Girlfriend and I are just Friends right now.
« Reply #29 on: November 27, 2007, 12:25:19 AM »
We have a change of status to friends right now.
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