Do you hate me, were you serious when you cursed at me? Did you realy mean what you said? If you were just playing around, I apologize.
Do you have any concept of the how important you would have to be to someone for them to actually hate you?
It's common sense to know when someone dislikes you when they flame you or curse at you, insult you, etc. But unfortunitly, it's hard to tell on here because I get flamed, etc and then they are nice to me, then they aren't. It's confusing. The comment Catkiller left in my blog on WP, I thought he hated me, then he is nice to me in my Spokane thread I thought McJagger hated me, then he is nice, I have thought Calendale hated me, then it seems like he doesn't.
Hypothetical:
I have an analogy that comes to my mind about playing games, which could be helpful to you, if you can get what I am talking about. "You win the game by playing the ball, not the man." (It's a famous basketball quote) In other words, "The Ball" is a thread
issue up for debate and "The Man" is the specific posting member who opposes you in a debate. As long as we are talking about something on which we disagree, we are antagonistic towards each other, but it is
NOT personal, it is merely a disagreement on an
issue. Feel free to show your passion, but be prepared to have it challenged and opposed. It is NOT personal.
If someone disagrees with you on an issue, they might beat the shit out of you for your opposing opinion, but it has nothing to do with you - it is about the
issue (The Ball).
The next issue that comes up, it is quite possible that we could agree, completely, and I might defend your viewpoint, along with my own, in that case. I would not be toying with your mind, I would simply be supporting our common viewpoint, together, against those who have an opposing viewpoint. It is still NOT personal. No need to answer, right away. Think about it a bit. Try to imagine that we could disagree vehemently and still not hate each other.
BTW, That's a beautiful Phalaenopsis pic.