I find that, most often, a person's reflex action to sudden "drama" is produced by the proverbial gut. Predicting the reaction is not possible.
I disagree. There are still plenty of patterns and tendencies. Some people cry, some people become disdainful, some people run, some people attack blindly - and a person's not likely to spontaneously change their usual responses. Such changes are usually gradual, or provoked by an obvious cause.
Maybe you are identifying a gift which you are just barely aware and you happen to be more adept in this area, than I am, especially.
Often enough, I misjudge who will step beyond expectations and also misplace confidence in someone who will buckle uselessly under pressure and become a liability.
Even learning much from an observation of gut-reflex is not really practical, because if something even remotely similar happens to "one," "one" discovers that "ones" own proverbial gut is made up of varying quantities of differing "stuff."
Depends what "one" is trying to learn. I, for one, ( ) find it fascinating to observe people in conflict, not because I'm trying to predict my own response, but because I want to predict and affect others' responses.
My usual attempts to affect others' responses stems from my wanting them to leave me the fuck alone. (which is a little different from what I am doing right now, so bear with me if I don't make sense at first) That is why I so often go overboard and lose my cool. It is difficult to "remove" myself and remain stoical.
Other than that, what is the point?
Can't learn, except by doing. Sorry, no shortcuts to guts!
Agreed - though I actually know one person who vehemently argues the opposite, and I find it fascinating to watch, because while his advice rarely helps those around him, it works extremely well for him personally. By watching others instead of making his own mistakes, he managed to avoid a lot of financial and future-planning blunders, and became successful faster than most.
Although, I can see how certain types of "drama" can be entertaining, until you become bored with watching.
I only find it boring once it's become predictable - hence why the forums were more interesting when I first joined. There was more of a sense of mission, more people trying for common ground, and the momentum of finally discovering what was "wrong" with you all along and finding others like you. I'm still idealistic, so I revise my visions when they're proven false instead of abandoning them.
Revising is good. Never stop.
I'm still enjoying getting to know bits and pieces about people who may understand some of it, even though I have yet to meet anyone who can echo-locate in the dark (or take beer money from bets on blindfolded dart games in bars
Now, THAT'S entertainment.).
I'm a little too self centered in that regard, though. I go off on a tangent talking about something that happened to me, in details that are hardly relevant to anyone else's experience, and it just becomes boring.
I still have to learn that not every story has to start with, "I first became aware that I could hatch out of that eggshell, when ... --- ..."
I need to learn to skip to the chase scene a little better.
I'm not sure I can ever be idealistic again, but I like to try.