You're probably right that I would tell you to run away if she were just someone you were dating and I know that you need to do whatever is in your best interest regarding your mother. I still remember when she pretty much cut you off and chose her relationship with her latest lover over you and I was horrified that a mother would do that to her child.
I guess you were somewhat financially dependent on her before while you were still in school but you aren't anymore?
*nod* She wasn't actually helping me financially per se but she was entangled in a way that didn't fully end until school got done and I got a job, is perhaps the best way to put it.
By the way, she's done that all her damn life- every guy she's had any major relationship with, she's picked over me in some way or another. It was just the first time she actually put it in writing. I can't count the amount of *times* she's done it, but she did it with at least... *counts* four men and counting, at this point, I think? She's been doing it since I was three. I figure it's kinda why I'm a little
quirky about attaching. Treat me right and be a good thing in my life and I will love you and be loyal even through the hard times... but only in proportion to the love and trust you have already earned. I just plain don't have any totally unbreakable bonds, apparently. I do at least have enough...
something... non-sociopathy?... that I don't actually want to ever say or do anything mean enough to her that it might send her over the edge- she's pretty cracked, so it is something that's worth being concerned about. That would hold true even if I wasn't also worried about whatever goes on between myself and her upsetting my grandparents. But, that's pretty much the extent of my remaining affection toward my mother, and it's no more than I'd prolly feel for your average stranger on the street.
