just tell him "look, i've found a hot english aspie guy online. i don't need you anymore, now pack up your vibrators and leave!"
Lol, this is a platonic friend, and I'm just asking him not to do something he's done a couple of times now and upset me each time, but that I don't think he actually
knows is kind of, ah, not the nicest thing to do- let alone that it upsets me. It's still confrontation, though, and I still feel all awful and nearvous and mean about calling out someone I basically like and care about, even though I tried to put it as nicely as possible.
Now I'm stuck at hoping it doesn't cause a huge blow-up. =(
I don't know if I'm a demanding asshole or a pushover that gives too much and snaps (every time!), but i do know I've only been on the recieving end of a "hey, this isn't cool" thing once... it worked itself out though, and it started off way more heated (and I was pretty hardcore in the wrong, looking back... jesus, lol, that takes me back to bad places). And I've told my closer friends that if I ever start doing stuff that really bugs them to tell me because I'd rather know then unknowingly be a bad friend somehow, or have it get to
be a blowup.
...blaaaah.