GA and renaeden hate each other.

[McGiver]

But there's a big crack on the other side? Two posters?

one of spock, one of kirk.  i always thought that kirk was gay, so i would put him in the closet. 

LOL! :lol:
That made me laugh out loud!

get her laughing then you two can calm a bit.

you calm now?

THAT is stellar advice, though hard to do when you're both livid.

I always used to try to do this, but it always back-fired.  She'd get mad that I was joking about something she considered important.

recently i have learned that it is all in the delivery.

[Pyraxis]

I must be in the minority then - if I'm pissed off about something and my S.O. tries to distract me by making me laugh, it only pisses me off more. If I even get the joke.

Maybe because if I'm laughing, then they assume everything's ok and the thing I'm pissed off about never gets resolved.

[McGiver]

I must be in the minority then - if I'm pissed off about something and my S.O. tries to distract me by making me laugh, it only pisses me off more. If I even get the joke.

Maybe because if I'm laughing, then they assume everything's ok and the thing I'm pissed off about never gets resolved.

resolution?


how about resolve to admit that you were pissed off but not it is but a memory.

[Pyraxis]

resolution?


how about resolve to admit that you were pissed off but not it is but a memory.

 

[Peter]

Angered and frustrated and put my fist throw the pantry door. Literally, I hit the door so hard that I severely cracked the far side of it.


The front of the pantry door.


And the back of it.

Do they make real doors over there?  The ones in this house are 3.5cm thick solid wood.

[Peter]

Soon after she gave me tissues and we had sexless make up sex

Tell us about this sexless sex.

[Leto729]

I guess I am going to have to learn this over again.

  to all of You.

[McGiver]

resolution?


how about resolve to admit that you were pissed off but not it is but a memory.

 

do you need resolution even after trivial fights?

[Pyraxis]

Not in the same way. But I wouldn't consider a fight that led to breaking glass and punching through doors trivial. The worst fights I've gotten into with S.O.'s have only gotten to raised voices and threatening to leave. Though I also have a tendency to go for emotionally constrained people, so even raised voices is a big deal in comparison to the norm.

[El]

Oh, it would initially piss me off no matter what (has when it's happened in family fights), but I tend to stay pissed even when the issue has been resolved, so it's not just delivery, it's timing.  Trying to derail the argument/issue at hand is dumb; trying to defuse a situation is a good idea.  If it was ultimately to break lingering/unnecessary tension and/or as a peace offering, I don't think I'd wind up being mad about that for very long.  Then again, maybe it's just that I have also been met with unresponsive/stony silence in fights with a few people, and that drives me up a fucking tree, (plus it is very unlikely to get silence in return if I'm so pissed I'm not able to keep myself from making the situation/silence worse) so throwing humor in there is at the very least a lesser evil- at least then I have some idea of what the other person is thinking/feeling.  If they decide to go into Standby mode, I wind up with no idea of how I can defuse.

[SovaNu]

i go nuts like that. mom had the wrong channel on when we were waiting for Heroes and it had already begun when she flipped to BBC2, it was just a few seconds but i went nuts and screamed my ass off and we didn't watch it until the next day's rerun.

i have something that is so ready to explode in me and before i know it i am yelling so loud the man on the moon can hear me. i wonder how i could fix that.

[McGiver]

Not in the same way. But I wouldn't consider a fight that led to breaking glass and punching through doors trivial. The worst fights I've gotten into with S.O.'s have only gotten to raised voices and threatening to leave. Though I also have a tendency to go for emotionally constrained people, so even raised voices is a big deal in comparison to the norm.

some people express their anger in different ways than you or i.  when i am really angry i am cool, calm and collecten.  when i am slightly irked i may throw a tantrum or things.

[McGiver]

Oh, it would initially piss me off no matter what (has when it's happened in family fights), but I tend to stay pissed even when the issue has been resolved, so it's not just delivery, it's timing.  Trying to derail the argument/issue at hand is dumb; trying to defuse a situation is a good idea.  If it was ultimately to break lingering/unnecessary tension and/or as a peace offering, I don't think I'd wind up being mad about that for very long.  Then again, maybe it's just that I have also been met with unresponsive/stony silence in fights with a few people, and that drives me up a fucking tree, (plus it is very unlikely to get silence in return if I'm so pissed I'm not able to keep myself from making the situation/silence worse) so throwing humor in there is at the very least a lesser evil- at least then I have some idea of what the other person is thinking/feeling.  If they decide to go into Standby mode, I wind up with no idea of how I can defuse.

i would agree with the timing.

if the fight is with a guy we just like to pound it out.  but sometimes with women they need some space to cool off.  and immediate resolution is not a good idea.  i suggest when dealing with females to let them stew in their own guilt for a bit, then approach them about resolution.



ha!

[Pyraxis]

some people express their anger in different ways than you or i.  when i am really angry i am cool, calm and collecten.  when i am slightly irked i may throw a tantrum or things.

Fair point. I found it interesting that even though GA and renaeden were breaking things, they stopped short of doing permanent property damage to things seriously valuable to each other. Maybe it was less of a big deal than it struck me as at first glance.

[SovaNu]

when i'm really mad i might throw a pen. i never touch anything of importance to myself or someone else. and i can't stay mad long, it all comes out in the explosion. i think it's healthier to just blow up and purge all the crap and then you're clean and empty. instead of dwelling in the anger for longer. but it's not good for my mom's nerves though.