Being socially inept was a staple of movies for decades. You ever see Pretty In Pink? The guy was a teenager learning how to socialize. Not a person with a disease that needed medicine and doctors.
no, i haven't seen Pretty In Pink. but i'm pretty sure that this character, that you speak of, was capable of communicating with others beyond just saying "yeah," "sorry" and "hahaha" - which is the level that i'm ?at, most of the time.
all my life, i've had to work several times harder than others - only to get less results than those who don't try as hard as i do. and then, on top of that, i have to deal with ignorant cunts like you telling me that i should try even harder.
Did I say that?
i remember you saying that you saw a "miracle" the other day, Happeh. well, i've not achieved anything special in my lifetime, so far. i've had one relationship (that lasted almost a year) and a few low-paid jobs. that may not sound like anything special to most people but, when i compare myself to how i used to be, i realise that i am ?a miracle. and the thing that makes it truly miraculous is that i achieved it despite the fact that i had people like you all around me, telling me that i was to blame for the difficulties i had.].
What makes no sense to me is that you act like you are alone. The majority of the people in the world are just like you. They do the best they can and people talk smack to them as a reward. Whether they have Asperger's or something else or nothing at all. That is how life is. You haven't been picked out special for any kind of trouble.
all i have to do when i want to know how disastrous my life could've been is to look at my father - his parents punished him continuously throughout his childhood because they thought he was a badly behaved child (AS had not been officially identified when he was a kid). is it any wonder that he turned to (and became addicted to) heroin, in his twenties, to escape the emotional pain of having been relentlessly persecuted by the two people who should have accepted him the way he was? he's never been able to hold down a job. he married my mother, but his wife's family hate him because they all think he's a creepy arsehole (even though he's never done anything to hurt anyone). and now, in his early sixties, he's not sure how much of this miserable life he's got left because all the years of drug abuse has damaged his liver.
if people had known, in the forties, what they know about AS today, my dad's life could've been completely different. he's extremely intelligent; who knows what he would've achieved, with the right guidance? but - just to keep everyone else "Happeh" - let's just pretend AS doesn't exist, okay? ?
I don't agree. I think it is easy to say that "bad behavior" is Asperger's. I think that is an excuse.
Have you ever been around black kids? Black kids are hell. Really. They will not listen, they yell and scream and fight. It is a nightmare. Ask any teacher. Read your newspaper to see what school is like these days.
Are you saying that all of those black kids have Asperger's? I don't believe that. It is part of their culture. Black kids are more independent. They do not have the urge to be a slave bred into them the way white people do. White people are docile. They do most anything you tell them to. That is why they are so good in the corporate world. They will sit at a desk pressing keys like a monkey for the entire day without a complaint.
I don't think that being spirited, independent, or having parents that do not know how to raise children is a reason to put an Asperger's label on someone.
In my opinion, lots of people have lost the ability or the knowledge of how to raise human beings properly. Human beings have energy. If you know this, you will treat people a certain way and raise kids a certain way. A way that is more knowledgeable about the relationship and interactions between people.
If you do not know or do not believe that people have energy, then things seem mysterious to you. People seem to behave in unpredicatable and capricious ways. It is not that people are unpredictable. It is that you do not know how to read the signs of what is going on with another person because you don't believe in energy. If their energy is getting angry and you keep pushing them...then they blow up and hit you.....you think the person went crazy and attacked you out of nowhere. But if you knew about energy, you would have felt them getting angry and you could have chosen another way to deal with the situation.
I think that by labeling something "Aspergers", it gives people a reason to quit. They can say "I have a disease, I am stuck". If you tell them the don't have a disease, ,hey just don't know about energy, their own energy, how to manage it and make it grow, and how to interact with other people's energy in a proper and healthy way, then instead of giving up, maybe they would go get a book or find a person to teach them about energy.
There is the defeatism of "I have Aspergers". Or the positive outlook of "I need to learn this energy stuff or whatever to make myself fit into society better and make myself a better person".
