I'v had some of that too. "Oh, he's so smart", "Why can't he apply himself?", "Whats wrong with you?", yadda yadda yadda. The last one is the phrase most burned into my brain. Sometimes I get a little envious of the help and coaching my daughter gets nowadays. Stuff that I didn't have way back when. The first person who says, "Whats wrong with you?" to Amber is going to face the Father from HELL. I won't have that burned into her brain, and so far I hope I'm succeeding. I'v already had someone say that to my face, fortunately it was an old biddy of a social self righteous snob at my wife's catholic church. Amber never heard that and so I controlled myself. Barely.