Just limit your posting under the influence
Kidding.. Seriously, I think that the problem is that certain mods don't understand objectivity in modding. Usually you get a warning (or two or three) before you get banned for that type of flaming in the Haven. Especially when it's not one-sided - you can be pretty evil, but only to people who've asked for it. I thought that Alex was a total dick to the mods that banned you, because we really never had any clear instructions on how to handle anything besides obvious spam, and he's banned people for less. But people have also gotten away with lots of things and really anemic warnings for worse. I wasn't a mod when I saw the worse - otherwise I probably would have gotten involved. I just think that banning you was an emotional decision from some really emotionally fragile mods that couldn't make an objective decision in the case. They really should have asked another mod that was not involved in the first place to review it. That would have been the best way to handle it, in my opinion.
Anyway, after all that drama (which has never subsided, by the way), I at least had the nerve to admit that I couldn't be objective because I didn't want you to get banned. I would have understood if you did, though, and I wouldn't have made a big deal out of it.
I'm really annoyed with Graelwyn at the moment. She goes on and on about how she's been abused in the forums, but then does it herself. I couldn't believe the latest thing that she did - which was attack Starbuline for 'cheating' on KBABZ. She also said that she sent you a PM telling you what she thought about you... I could use a little entertainment, since Paris Hilton is getting a little stale, so let's see it
You should give yourself more credit. You have lots of friends at WP (including me). And there's a 14 page thread wishing you a happy birthday