Nice emoticon.
Well, thanks for those links.. Now I at least understand the tea cozy reference - lol.
Gral seems to be one of those people who blames everyone and everything except herself for her own problems. It's really sad, actually. I had a friend like that, and I had to eventually just quit being friends with her because she was like this emotional black hole that would never change or go away. No matter how good advice you give her, it won't make any difference.