pfffft!
you can "encourage" me all you like. when you stop behaving as though you're in any sort of position to act as a "wise elder" to me, i may start listening.
and you have no idea about "crossing lines". you know jack shit about the situation. and yes, i do realise you're hanging around and trying to goad me into replying, to explain the situation. well, don't hold your breath - i'm contrary like that.