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Re: British Aspie site
« Reply #240 on: April 17, 2007, 03:04:39 AM »
It often only works once tho - taking advantage of a person's generosity...


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Re: British Aspie site
« Reply #241 on: April 17, 2007, 03:09:55 AM »
I disagree. Like I said, depends on the person.
A lot of people are gullible as hell.

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Re: British Aspie site
« Reply #242 on: April 17, 2007, 03:23:04 AM »
I think i do agree with you actually, thinking about it

I have another 'friend' who I dont realy class as a friend and he will meet up to go to cinema but if we go to cafe he always lets me pay for things - never offers to pay himself for a change and then he wiould usually come abck to my house and have a meal

He is unemployed and always looks semi-homeless so I feel a bit sorry for him - he definitely plays this up tho

My Mum dislikes him - says he's a scrounger

So you are right

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Re: British Aspie site
« Reply #243 on: April 17, 2007, 02:56:54 PM »
Hell, if someone ALWAYS offers to pay, I let them do so.
I'm rather used to being relatively poor, and I figure whatever.
Probably sound a lot like your quasi-friend. On the other hand,
my friends (when I had them) would never make such foolish
offers, unless I mentioned that I didn't have enough money to
do something - in which case they might (usually just loans though);
I'd do the same for them too.

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Re: British Aspie site
« Reply #244 on: April 17, 2007, 03:40:46 PM »
Is it foolish to be generous tho?

I feel this 'friend' takes advantage of me and that makes me feel stupid but on the other
hand I see it in a way like a test of my generosity/Christian principles

ie if something is hard to do that doesnt necessarily make it a bad thing and if it's helping another
person shouldn't that be the main thing?

I have a real moral dilemma over this person

Each time I drop contact with him as I get fed up of feeling 'used', I have this nagging voice saying 'You took
the easy way out - you aren't a truly 'Christian'/good person as self-interest has won the day'



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Re: British Aspie site
« Reply #245 on: April 17, 2007, 03:43:38 PM »
And that's the eternal dilemma when you make the mistake of considering self-interest evil.
You'll never self-actualize the subconscious canopy of stardust with that attitude.

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Re: British Aspie site
« Reply #246 on: April 17, 2007, 03:45:31 PM »
I don't consider it 'evil' as such, just not always equating with being a truly 'good' or moral person

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Re: British Aspie site
« Reply #247 on: April 17, 2007, 03:49:44 PM »
And Im certainly not holding myself up as some saint or anything  :laugh:

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Re: British Aspie site
« Reply #248 on: April 17, 2007, 03:53:37 PM »
Is it foolish to be generous tho?

I feel this 'friend' takes advantage of me and that makes me feel stupid but on the other
hand I see it in a way like a test of my generosity/Christian principles

ie if something is hard to do that doesnt necessarily make it a bad thing and if it's helping another
person shouldn't that be the main thing?

I have a real moral dilemma over this person

Each time I drop contact with him as I get fed up of feeling 'used', I have this nagging voice saying 'You took
the easy way out - you aren't a truly 'Christian'/good person as self-interest has won the day'


But if this person is using you, maybe you are better off dropping contact.

As an alternative, you could stop offering to pay for him, then maybe you would not feel so used.

I don't think being a moral person is equivalent to being a doormat.


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Re: British Aspie site
« Reply #249 on: April 17, 2007, 03:56:46 PM »
Agreed

That's why I do drop contact

Then a year or more can go by and he'll email me out of the blue and I will sometimes
resume contact

It's cos my life is so devoid of better options a lot of the time!

He's the only person I know who has such a strong interest in films and would prob come to see any film
or play with me if I asked (I dont pay for his ticket lol)

How sad is that?!  ::)

I have other friends who would do this but not so consistently and I can't have the same nerdy film conversations with them as with him

Btw I realise this is very off-topic but no-one seems interested in talking about AV anymore
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Re: British Aspie site
« Reply #250 on: April 17, 2007, 04:02:00 PM »
Btw I realise this is very off-topic but no-one seems interested in talking about AV anymore

That's because the Internet drama's gone. Now it's just another forum.
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Re: British Aspie site
« Reply #251 on: April 17, 2007, 04:03:16 PM »
It's not as though you are not using them as well, to make you
feel the better Christian. Do whichever makes you feel better.
Hell, maybe even discuss the issue with him, why keep this
only to yourself?

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Re: British Aspie site
« Reply #252 on: April 17, 2007, 04:03:57 PM »
I spent ages typing out that description of the Bham meet tho and no one appears to have appreciated it  :'(


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Re: British Aspie site
« Reply #253 on: April 17, 2007, 04:06:38 PM »
Frankly, esme, I thought you sounded pretty intolerant and bitchy in it, but I didn't care enough to start an argument about it.
You'll never self-actualize the subconscious canopy of stardust with that attitude.

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Re: British Aspie site
« Reply #254 on: April 17, 2007, 04:07:13 PM »
I can't talk to him about stuff like that - he doesn't seem tuned in to emotional stuff

He is mildly autistic apparently

He's a very odd combination