British Aspie site

[Calandale]

Glad to see the threads back on track.

[McGiver]

I am confused as to why you are a) called Calamity Jane and b) have a photo of a woman if you are male

So you think we are all wrapped up in cotton wool on AV?

Why does 'real life' have to necessarily be harsh?

You can filter out the harsh stuff and concentrate of the nice stuff
- we all know it's still there, but it's you who controls what you focus on

the point is that you can't.  not if you are forced to walk on eggshells and are living under over censored conditions.

you lose your sense of self....as you pointed out earlier.

[esme456]

It's boring trying to push the boundaries and be 'controversial' all the time tho...

Can I ask you a question about your family background?

[McGiver]

It's boring trying to push the boundaries and be 'controversial' all the time tho...

Can I ask you a question about your family background?

you just need to push sometimes.

most times, life takes care of it for you.



yes, my life is an open book.  ask whatever you want.

[esme456]

Are your parents together?

Would you say you had a happy childhood?

[McGiver]

no they aren't.

my first childhood memory is of the night my dad left, when i was three.
i was the middle child.

i would not say that my childhood was happy.

[esme456]

Ok, thanks

I'm sorry to hear that

[McGiver]

where you going to go somewhere with this?
was it the basis of an argument?

[esme456]

Well I'm trying to work out the people on here, what makes them tick

I am trying to find common factors

[McGiver]

Well I'm trying to work out the people on here, what makes them tick

I am trying to find common factors

i actually think that i have rejected a decent amount of what i should be.

i spent several years holing myself up in my room....watching tv, radio, reading, doing puzzles, sorting my baseball cards, coloring, etc...so as not having to deal with my family.
i was constantly corrected around them.

i consider myself juvenile, to some degree, because of that.  because i taught myself my own rules....alone.  and spent a good part of my late teens and twenties philosophizing and writing and reading.  trying to figure out how it all works.

i have no concrete answers.  not even sure if what i think works for me actually does.


the one thing i know for certain is that i want to be myself without constant correction from others.

[esme456]

Very interesting

Lamala (Tom?) seems to have had a tough time with his parents and he seems drawn to this site/is more of a rebel

I class parents as either the type who fulfil a proper 'parental' role or those that somehow mess up and the child
has to become their own advocate - this can be a good thing though as it seems to lead to more independence of thought

ie the children of 'good' parents can end up as mini, well-behaved versions of them but with less autonomy

I often feel like that

It also explains why I find it hard to relate to your type of person

I mean i like you, just can feel we are different types

[McGiver]

so you came from a 'functional' family?


you know, those with autonomous thinking are usually the ones who push the envelope and find a new, sometimes better way.

[esme456]

It's certainly not perfect but more or less functional I suppose

I agree with you re. autonomous thinkers

I'm not criticising at all, just seeking to explain differences in outlook on life

[The_P]

How can an inanimate object go down on anyone??

It's inanimate! lol

 

THE BALL IS INERT

[Calandale]

Funny. I came from a semi-functional family (always fighting), but had
pretty much the same response to it MJ did.