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[esme456]

 

[esme456]

Well it's the language they use to say things that often offends me

I do accept that I have a tendency to lecture people tho

It's cos my social/bantering skills are no good tho - I literally can't do the jokey stuff
you do on here - it's like a foreign language to me

Peope think I'm self-righteous and po-faced but I cannot do the other stuff - I get penalised for not doing something Im incapable of - that seems unfair to me

I would feel liek I was being a different person if I acted like the peopel on here - it's alien to my nature

So I play to my strenghts ie finding information, trying to advise people and defending people

I can do conflict but not jokey bantering on a board, not very well anyway

[The_P]

I don't mind lectures providing that it's not crammed down in my throat.

[McGiver]

Well it's the language they use to say things that often offends me

I do accept that I have a tendency to lecture people tho

It's cos my social/bantering skills are no good tho - I literally can't do the jokey stuff
you do on here - it's like a foreign language to me

Peope think I'm self-righteous and po-faced but I cannot do the other stuff - I get penalised for not doing something Im incapable of - that seems unfair to me

I would feel liek I was being a different person if I acted like the peopel on here - it's alien to my nature

So I play to my strenghts ie finding information, trying to advise people and defending people

I can do conflict but not jokey bantering on a board, not very well anyway

i can accept this.

fighting for those that you care about is true strength of character.  i can admire that quality in you.

i don't think that you are a bad person.  on the contrary, i like you.  my argument was about the language and peoples diversity.




how about that blowjob?

[esme456]

Well thanks 

I am very into self improvement and open to constructive criticism

I can see that in a social setting I can be insufferable to certain types of people -
I'm not totally unaware of how I come across lol

If you keep changing yourself to fit in with all the different kinds of people though there's a danger
of losing your actual identity imo

[McGiver]

Well thanks 

I am very into self improvement and open to constructive criticism

I can see that in a social setting I can be insufferable to certain types of people -
I'm not totally unaware of how I come across lol

If you keep changing yourself to fit in with all the different kinds of people though there's a danger
of losing your actual identity imo

i couldn't agree more.  and i would hate to lose myself.


it's just that it has always been a mystery how people inteact with each other so seemlessly.  so i like to abserve, always have.  and i make decisions in my ownlife based upon those observations.

can i live with that action....well then it is food for thought.

did that action repulse me....then i will certainly not adapt that behaviour.


was that persons action moving to me in a positive way...then i will consider it and likely adopt it for self use.


the thing i realize is that no matter how hard a person fights things, they are still influenced by the things they have seen and done.  their person is made up of situations along there lifes journey and the character of their natural spirit.
who a person is  is a give and take between the two.

[esme456]

I have this thing whereby I actively don't adopt certain types of behaviour for the very fact that most people
seem to be doing it and I don't want to just copy them

It's like when a big blockbuster film comes out and they say 'See this film!' so most people, like sheep, see it
- I will not want to see it for that very reason ie because I am being told to see it and because everyone is seeing it

Much social behaviour seems like that to me - everyone adopts it cos it's the 'done thing' ie everyone else is doing it, on any kind of forum/IRL

I seem to have this perverse need NOT to partake in this behaviour - it seems like a dilution of my essential self to act like this just to get on with other people, so I never learned how to do it cos I didnt want to be like other people

Does that make me anti-social?

[The_P]

Stop trying to differentiate yourself from the rest of the human populace just because people are excited about a certain film or music album. You're no different from anybody else.

Welcome... to the human gene pool.

[esme456]

In some ways I do want to be just like everybody else, I want to blend in and be seen as 'normal'
but in other ways I have a total horror of being like everyone else - what's the point in being alive if you're just a clone?

[McGiver]

I have this thing whereby I actively don't adopt certain types of behaviour for the very fact that most people
seem to be doing it and I don't want to just copy them

It's like when a big blockbuster film comes out and they say 'See this film!' so most people, like sheep, see it
- I will not want to see it for that very reason ie because I am being told to see it and because everyone is seeing it

Much social behaviour seems like that to me - everyone adopts it cos it's the 'done thing' ie everyone else is doing it, on any kind of forum/IRL

I seem to have this perverse need NOT to partake in this behaviour - it seems like a dilution of my essential self to act like this just to get on with other people, so I never learned how to do it cos I didnt want to be like other people

Does that make me anti-social?

it makes you a rebel.

yet you are limiting yourself.

maybe you are missing out on a cenematic classic.
maybe there are things that you can learn from the film.


btw- i really do not like movies, mainly movies made over the last 20 years.

[esme456]

Agreed, I have too many hard and fast rules

They are comforting though

[The_P]

The rebel mentality = cloneish behaviour.

We got enough of "rebels", thanks.

[McGiver]

The rebel mentality = cloneish behaviour.

We got enough of "rebels", thanks.

actually you are right.

i would say since the fifties, rebels are a manufactured image.

[The_P]

Wanna be a rebel? Stop looking for approval.

[McGiver]

Wanna be a rebel? Stop looking for approval.