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QuoteCalandale, you've never really explained it (you don't have to if you don't want to), but how did your split with your wife happen?I still don't understand it myself. We started growing more distant.We ended up moving from a really nice apartment to a smaller,less comfortable one, and things really deteriorated. Our lives had become something of a granfalloon, but after the move (which was into the neighborhood she grew up in), shebegan hanging out with some old friends again. On the other hand,I, who had probably been the more social of the two of us, in termsof having contact with friends, had mostly lost contact with everyoneI knew (various means - mainly them moving out of the area). This reversal didn't suit us well.Along with this, I no longer had a safe retreat - really neither ofus did; the new place was just a bit too cramped. We both neededa lot of time to ourselves. BUT, there had been the underlying distancebetween us, as well. Anyhow, things started getting pretty bad, but Inever thought that we would crack - she was spending more and moretime away, and there were obvious problems. We tried fencing (somethingwe hadn't really done together since we first met), and she admitted wantingto kill me. No huge deal that, but it was a pretty clear sign.Then one day, she and I got in an argument about what was going on, and shejust decided that she couldn't handle it anymore. She made it clear that either I had to leave, or she would. There was nothing to keep me in Buffalo, so I finally decided to leave. The only thing that I could really get out of her, was that shewas losing her mind, and couldn't afford to go crazy. It's funny, I tried to convinceher to go on a Bonny and Clyde type of spree. Would have been a kick, and I wouldn'thave lost her. It was probably tougher on her, than it was on me. I was absolutely devastated,but over the next couple of years, she made a couple of serious suicide attempts.She pretty much went crazy anyhow.After we were separated for a little over a year, I had to bail her out of the psychcenter (she had tried ODing on sleeping pills). It looked like things were going to be alright between us, but a number of concerns haunted me. When I expressed them to her, that was pretty much the end of that. Some harsh words ensued, andafter a few months, she cut all contact. I have no fucking idea if she's alive or dead(probably dead, given my past history). I still love her, and miss the hell out of her,but, like when I expressed my concerns, I'm just not positive that we would work out together anymore.
Calandale, you've never really explained it (you don't have to if you don't want to), but how did your split with your wife happen?
How about a twenty-words-or-less on that?
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