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Re: Just one quick bitch ...
« Reply #7740 on: January 20, 2009, 07:30:10 AM »
Don't take the shit. Bensos and central stimulants are the only good medicines.

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« Reply #7741 on: January 20, 2009, 12:18:02 PM »
I just had another run-in about my choice of attire...namely my hat and sunglasses. It didn't help that I had just pulled an all-nighter having gone to the Beastie Boys show in DC last night. Long story short, I walked into my Credit Union to deposit another check made out to my Mum’s Estate, which is tricky now because her accounts are closed and the Probate Clerk at the County Court recommended I not be named by the courts as Executor to the Estate due to it being insolvent by ~$40K. Instead, they sent me a Small Estate Affidavit to fill out and get notarized so I could handle this stuff. Damn, now this is becoming a short story in long form.

Where was I? Oh yeah, I walked into the Credit Union and asked to see a representative about depositing the check and potentially opening a separate account to hold my Mum’s cash assets, since I am legally bound to ensure they are kept in an interest-earning account until all debts are resolved. Not being named by the courts as Executor of the Estate, I cannot open an Estate Account, so it was suggested I open a separate Savings Account to put this money into. So the girl at the front who usually would put your name and account number into the computer so the next available representative could help you in the order you came in informs me that I needed to remove my hat and sunglasses. I politely replied I have no problem taking them off and providing ID to verify my identity, but due to my light sensitivity wished to put them back on after that. She said it was policy that nobody could wear a hat and/or sunglasses and I had to take them off the entire time I was in there or they were not allowed to help me.

I then went into my 30-second spiel about Asperger’s Syndrome and the sensory issues most of us deal with and she wouldn’t budge and left to go get her Supervisor. A few minutes later the Supervisor escorts me politely to her private office and closes the door. I explained the situation again, as did she the Credit Union’s policy. I also point out that the policy, while not intending to, is discriminatory against anybody who has light sensitivity issues or any other condition that requires glasses to protect their eyes and/or help them see. I am really getting upset and unable to even look up from the desk as I talk. By now, I am very much aware of how exhausted I am, how much difficulty I have had in dealing with my Mum’s death, and how frustrating it is to almost on a daily basis have incidents like this.

The last time this happened I lost it and ended up blurting out obscenities as I walked out the door in disgust. But I kept my cool today and the Supervisor called the Credit Unions Chief of Security on the phone while I sat there. A bit awkward because I could hear her, as well as some of the voice on the other line, you know…sensitive hearing. Plus, I could make out the gist of the conversation by what she was saying and how she responded. Let’s just say that, while the Supervisor was nice to me in so much as she didn’t threaten to call the police like the last time, clearly some things were exchanged at my expense. After completing the conversation she said she was authorized to help me today and that they would put a note in my account about my condition, but that did not mean I would not get asked again.

Glad to have taken care of my business, I left and headed to work. A little upset and having lost a lot of the buzz I was on from last night’s festivities in DC, I pondered the logic in the policy.

I agree that financial institutions should be allowed to verify your identity, which I offered, including to smile for the camera if they wanted me to. I do the same for airport security. But I do get to put the hat and sunglasses back on after being checked through at the airport. This part seems logical and reasonable, so I am willing to momentarily be uncomfortable for such a reason.

I truly wonder what kind of deterrent such a policy can be. Say I was intent on robbing the place and wore a disguise, including a hat and sunglasses. If I am carrying a weapon, or at least pretending to, then what is the likelihood of me actually stopping if confronted a mere 10 feet into the place? If I am hell-bent on robbing the place and have no qualms about killing, or at least am jacked up by the situation and capable of doing so, then it would seem this policy could jeopardize the safety of the people working the front. Maybe I run out in a panic after such a confrontation results in death or injury to the person, but one would think the life of the employee would take precedence over the little bit of money that such a robbery would cost.
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Re: Just one quick bitch ...
« Reply #7742 on: January 20, 2009, 01:07:28 PM »
I'm glad that they said they would make a note of the sensory issues and waited on you after you were inside the supervisor's office, at least.

Their concern has to be that sunglasses and a hat form some sort of disguise to one's identity, but you offered to remove them so they could confirm that. 

It's probably some sort of policy that is made more general to be more idiot-proof for the people who work at the front desk.

I wonder if they would ask you to remove tinted prescription glasses?

I know that judges in court allow you to wear dark tinted glasses if they are prescription glasses, but ask that hats and sunglasses that are not prescription be removed.  In this case, it is that they want to see your eyes to judge your veracity, so people who have difficulty with eye contact are at a distinct disadvantage anyway.

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Re: Just one quick bitch ...
« Reply #7743 on: January 20, 2009, 03:32:28 PM »
If any of the creditors file against my Mum's Estate, I will have to provide documentation to the court. Let's just say, I've been kicked out of courts before for refusing to take my hat off. That was long before I ever heard of Asperger's Syndrome. If you think I was obstinate then, with a diagnosis I absolutely refuse to comply with such things. Call me difficult, call me an ass, I don't care. If wearing them allows me to adapt to the environment and find some level of comfort then it is nobody else's damn business. Revolution!!!!!!!! :headbang2:
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Suicide would waste me
Homicide would break me
Tongue tied and tied to the tongue
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I guess that's just the way it seems

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Re: Just one quick bitch ...
« Reply #7744 on: January 20, 2009, 04:09:15 PM »
I think I've gotten restless legs.  :-\

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Re: Just one quick bitch ...
« Reply #7745 on: January 20, 2009, 04:17:07 PM »
If any of the creditors file against my Mum's Estate, I will have to provide documentation to the court. Let's just say, I've been kicked out of courts before for refusing to take my hat off. That was long before I ever heard of Asperger's Syndrome. If you think I was obstinate then, with a diagnosis I absolutely refuse to comply with such things. Call me difficult, call me an ass, I don't care. If wearing them allows me to adapt to the environment and find some level of comfort then it is nobody else's damn business. Revolution!!!!!!!! :headbang2:

Have you considered getting a note from your doctor?
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14:10 - Moarskrillex42: She said something about knowing why I wanted to move to Glasgow when she came in. She plopped down on my bed and told me to go ahead and open it for her.

14:11 - Peter5930: So, she thought I was your lover and that I was sending you a box full of sex toys, and that you wanted to move to Glasgow to be with me?

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Re: Just one quick bitch ...
« Reply #7746 on: January 20, 2009, 04:39:53 PM »
If any of the creditors file against my Mum's Estate, I will have to provide documentation to the court. Let's just say, I've been kicked out of courts before for refusing to take my hat off. That was long before I ever heard of Asperger's Syndrome. If you think I was obstinate then, with a diagnosis I absolutely refuse to comply with such things. Call me difficult, call me an ass, I don't care. If wearing them allows me to adapt to the environment and find some level of comfort then it is nobody else's damn business. Revolution!!!!!!!! :headbang2:
If it were considered Islamic dress you would get away with it.

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« Reply #7747 on: January 20, 2009, 04:41:41 PM »
If any of the creditors file against my Mum's Estate, I will have to provide documentation to the court. Let's just say, I've been kicked out of courts before for refusing to take my hat off. That was long before I ever heard of Asperger's Syndrome. If you think I was obstinate then, with a diagnosis I absolutely refuse to comply with such things. Call me difficult, call me an ass, I don't care. If wearing them allows me to adapt to the environment and find some level of comfort then it is nobody else's damn business. Revolution!!!!!!!! :headbang2:
If it were considered Islamic dress you would get away with it.


Agreed.  :grrr:

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Re: Just one quick bitch ...
« Reply #7748 on: January 20, 2009, 05:04:06 PM »
Don't take the shit. Bensos and central stimulants are the only good medicines.

It's been my experience that modern designer meds that target specific receptors or neurotransmitters have all kinds of weird and often severe side-effects, and their benefits are non-obvious, if they provide any benefit at all, while older broad-spectrum meds like amphetamine and Valium give a much smoother experience and much more obvious and immediate benefits. 

I feel comfortable taking something that will have fairly predictable and obvious benefits and minor or negligible side-effects within an hour or two of taking it and for the next 6 hours after that, but I'm deeply suspicious of something that hits me with a truckload of wacky side-effects from the first day onwards, claims that it will only provide benefits after a month, and then fails to deliver as far as I can tell after I've put up with the weird, deeply unpleasant and frankly debilitating side-effects for a month.  Maybe they work for some people, but from my own experiences, I get the impression that they're just funky and harmful placebos that were concocted when the patents on the old meds ran out, so that the pharma companies could keep charging insane prices for new generations of pills.
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14:10 - Moarskrillex42: She said something about knowing why I wanted to move to Glasgow when she came in. She plopped down on my bed and told me to go ahead and open it for her.

14:11 - Peter5930: So, she thought I was your lover and that I was sending you a box full of sex toys, and that you wanted to move to Glasgow to be with me?

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Re: Just one quick bitch ...
« Reply #7749 on: January 20, 2009, 05:10:43 PM »
Valium rocks!  :party: :rock: :dance:

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Re: Just one quick bitch ...
« Reply #7750 on: January 20, 2009, 05:40:45 PM »
I'm out of my klonopin :'(
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« Reply #7751 on: January 20, 2009, 05:45:04 PM »
I'm out of my klonopin :'(

Force your shrink to prescribe Valium.  :mushie:

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« Reply #7752 on: January 20, 2009, 05:49:41 PM »
I'll call tomorrow and get another batch don't think she'd change it to Valium but I get Xanax too :laugh:
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Re: Just one quick bitch ...
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« Reply #7754 on: January 20, 2009, 07:21:44 PM »
It's cheap too. Just 79.5 öre/tablet.  :P