maybe your overanalytical thinking is preventing you from getting the pleasure you need. sex is fun on a whim, you know.
Maybe in your day, before people were aware of the rampant STDs, you geezer-player.
is it really that bad out there, even with a condom?
or are you being paranoid?
Have you read the stats on how many people contract STD's without realizing it?
Have a peek. Fact sheetExamples from two very common diseases: The herpes rates in the U.S. are
scary: 1 in 5 men, 1 in 4 women, and condoms aren't too great against it, although of course they help some. There is also NO CURE right now. (And don't say "it's just cold sores," for one thing I'd worry about infecting others if I had it, for another, you can actually get those sores on your EYES.)
The HPV rate for women is
beyond scary: 80% of women by age 50 have it in some form, and I think there's similar condom unhelpfulness. Also, no cure.
stats and trends for other diseases If you surf a bit, you can have a gander of specific rates of specific diseases in specific parts of the U.S.
So, am I paraniod? Honestly, I think the fact that I am assuming I will have sex again at some point has me think no. However, the considerable risk would make me want to know the person well enough to trust that they are being honest about their STD status (even if I asked them to show me their latest clinic report, there's no sure way to know it's not fake). Because it takes a long time for me to trust, I'd want a partner that I could stand to be with for long enough to make that effort worthwhile. Further, as a woman, I am far more likely to wind up on the recieving end of actual
bad sex (as opposed to the kind of bad sex that's "still bettere than nothing"), which would mean that I'd either want to look for people who I thought would be good in bed (problem there is the guys I'd be able to find any evidence towards this before actually screwing would probably also be more likely to be diseased), or look for someone who's motivated/motivatable and educable (far, far more likely).
Overanalyzing, maybe, but I question how much of this is actually arguably illogical.