So, what are you ignoring, right now?

[Sophgay]

i don't wanna live that long lol
i'll stay as long as i need to, for my family, but i won't be staying till i'm 80
i doubt i'd be healthy enough, even if i wanted to
i don't have that much motivation anymore, just have to force myself to do stuff, but that;s ok. as long as it gets done.

[Sophgay]

And if they're not a jerkoff, and you have no ill will?

... in the case of Soph, for instance?

It was a generalized bitch... I can think of at least three people it's immediately applicable to. It's something I've run into a lot.

Needing a friend probably covers it though. I just struggle when I am said friend, and honestly want to help, but can't say either "yeah, I know what you mean" or "here's what you could do to fix it." But I'm also susceptible to taking it hard when a person says "you're too happy (or too successful, or too competent, or too young, or too alive) to get it." I always feel guilty for walking away - if I'm so successful or whatever, there ought to be something else I could do.

Didn't see this on the first go'round. That's why your next post baffled me, somewhat. 

... but you're right. I always feel inadequate when I am that savior/friend. I always feel that I could do more, but we can't. All we can ever do is show someone the stones.We can not keep them from slipping, even when we help them up several times and show them the next and the next.

We must keep trying though, even if all we can offer is good footing and a strong back.

but sometimes we can carry them all the way and we dont

[DirtDawg]

And if they're not a jerkoff, and you have no ill will?

... in the case of Soph, for instance?

It was a generalized bitch... I can think of at least three people it's immediately applicable to. It's something I've run into a lot.

Needing a friend probably covers it though. I just struggle when I am said friend, and honestly want to help, but can't say either "yeah, I know what you mean" or "here's what you could do to fix it." But I'm also susceptible to taking it hard when a person says "you're too happy (or too successful, or too competent, or too young, or too alive) to get it." I always feel guilty for walking away - if I'm so successful or whatever, there ought to be something else I could do.

Didn't see this on the first go'round. That's why your next post baffled me, somewhat. 

... but you're right. I always feel inadequate when I am that savior/friend. I always feel that I could do more, but we can't. All we can ever do is show someone the stones.We can not keep them from slipping, even when we help them up several times and show them the next and the next.

We must keep trying though, even if all we can offer is good footing and a strong back.

but sometimes we can carry them all the way and we dont

NO, child!

You try to carry someone and you destroy them as surely as if you just left them behind.

Don't even think that someone should carry you!

[Sophgay]

i don't want anyone to carry me

[Persona]

I can keep telling you that I believe you will make it but that is not going to do you much good.

You have enough motivation to at least get things done, which can't be said for most people.

Stop blaming yourself and eat better.

Also learn to believe in yourself.

[Sophgay]

i believe i exist
i believe my family love me
i believe i love them
i believe sophie loved me
and i believe i love her
and i believe i will die one day

that's it ;

[Persona]

Everyone will die one day.

Stop living for other people and live for you.

[Tristeza]

That's a start.  You may be ahead of me, Soph.

[DirtDawg]

Everyone will die one day.

Stop living for other people and live for you.

*massive melodramatic sigh, tries one last response*


No, it's the balance that we must find.

Balance.

[Sophgay]

woe is me

[Tristeza]

Jose Cuervo helps me find the balance. 

[Sophgay]

i had a balance

[Sophgay]

once

[Pyraxis]

I always feel inadequate when I am that savior/friend. I always feel that I could do more, but we can't. All we can ever do is show someone the stones.We can not keep them from slipping, even when we help them up several times and show them the next and the next.

We must keep trying though, even if all we can offer is good footing and a strong back.

Agreed. And I will keep searching for ways to refine my understanding.

Though I wonder if recently I've become too focused. Levels of the mind are what I know best and I think I have been seeking them out at the expense of development of real-world skills. Like I'm beginning to suspect money is useful enough to drop impractical ideology and actually seek out.

[duncvis]

Ignoring Calandale's bullshit, from this point. well, attempting not to rise to it, anyway.