The orgasm gap
There is not an orgasm gap. That is just adults not owning heir sexual nature and conduct and not being responsible for their own sexual pleasure.
Ladies it is NOT the responsibility of your male partner to make you orgasm.
Gents it is NOT the responsibility of your female partner to make you orgasm.
If you are an adult you will make it your responsibility. If you believe in YOUR ignorance about your right to have your sexual partner make you orgasm on demand and every time, I have two words for you:
“marital rape”
Yeah, you REALLY do not want to go there. That is precisely where that kind of thinking goes and I for one think that you should wish to avoid this kind of entitled thinking.
Yes, I do get that there can be inconsiderate lovers or people who are into things you are not sexually into. Still makes no broader point though.
Haven’t we all had time to work out what we particularly like sexually, regardless of whether we are women or men? Is it a tragedy that this is the case? Have we not all had unsatisfying sex before? Have we all not had partners who at some time or other have been a little selfish?
I can only answer for myself and but whilst my answers will likely affirm the same as you, I do not see this as a tragedy or a gendered position or something to be fought against or for.
I tend to think if you do not know what you like sexually, then that is on you the sexually active person to find what you do like. In fact, there may be no small amount of wonder, joy and fun in doing so. If you have a selfish sexual partner then it may demand a conversation from you or a little sexual assertion or to find someone a little less selfish.
I see no victims here nor a gendered problem.
