That is actually a really good observation IMO regarding projection vs being on the shitty end of the stick.
Whilst both are, as far as I understand it, ingrained, a personality disorder, whilst just as persistent, and there for the duration, does cause others to suffer. Whilst I've never had a conversation about it with someone with a personality disorder, from everything I have ever either read, or directly seen, THEY don't suffer from it, others suffer because they end up through whatever means, in the sphere of influence of the turd with the personality disorder. Those with a developmental disorder, or a developmentally-acquired 'disorder' (such as autistic spectrum 'disorders' [hah, as if. If anything we are more demanding by nature of an orderly environment, as evinced by hostility towards major changes in life in a great many of us auties and aspies, not so sure about Rett's girls, since I only know one, and she is a chimaera, and as such highly, extremely atypical, so much so as to more or less take the entire clinical handbook on Rett's syndrome, write it in ogham, turn it upside down, and attempt to reconstruct it after setting it on fire and boiling it in acid, from the ICP-MS spectrum of the isotopic ratio of elements present in what used to be its makeup, AFTER the acid-boiling.) Completely and totally the opposite of everything you'd think to expect if before being introduced, you'd read on Rett's, had one first studied all the available literature on it. Unless 'contrary as fuck in a celibate order within the first church of anti-profanity' is a newly added defining symptom as of this year.
But AFAIK we all want structure in our lives, or most of us. The majority at least, and many NEED it like I need my lab, and both myself and every other denizen of I2 needs oxygen to breathe and exhales CO2, with the nitrogen content of the atmosphere discharged without use. And in other respects, I'd not be quick to call it a disorder either. Certainly not this autie, or the others I've met. And the others, are legion. Aspie, HFA, LFA, in-the-middle-F-A. The vast majority seem, as long as conditions which are contrary to our nature are not forced upon us, to be happy. Unless MADE to be unhappy, autism in and of itself does not seem to be an active driving force for misery. And generally, it is either environmental conditions or the active hatred of others towards us, bullying, esp. when young, that makes us unhappy. In the case of those with personality disorders, they are a vile force for distribution of hate and suffering.
And in certain cases of developmental conditions, such as Down's syndrome, those with Down's, are often spoken of as having an innately pro-happy disposition, in fact in my reading, I don't think in the case of Down's specifically, being the cause of somebody being mired in despair.
In the case of personality disorders, its a different kettle of fish altogether; and a different kettle of rotting, decaying, diseased fish at that. One that doesn't give a flying two-fingered dead dog fuck about anybody BUT themselves. In short, in both reading and experience, utter bastards. Although I'd freely admit the clinical literature doesn't tend to use the term 'what a fucking cunt; diagnose, make damn sure you are correct and then shoot in the stomach with a shotgun at close range and leave to die slowly and in torment'
Mdagli1-I'd say 'don't abuse people, but if one goes around abusing people and treating oneself like a god at the expense of everyone around one being treated like dog crap being scraped out of the treads of one's boots, then don't be all too surprised if one of these days, such a person ends up taking a sharp object in somewhere vital'
And by 'developmental' do you MEAN 'developmental disorder' (w/ disorder possibly being spoken in snarkage) or do you mean 'personality disorder' (such as sociopathy, psychopathy, borderline personality disorder [seen this up close, not me personally but unfortunately had to live with one for a few years...it felt like living a ratio of 1 year=century, and more of a sentence handed down than a life. And it narrowly missed ending up with the death of at least one of us, on several occasions. In the end, it was the fact that the creature I lived with attacked with a sword, whilst I had been able to blockade the bedroom door, and that I two, own a sword, and also had a dart rifle, a S&W, and a .22 airgun, and the former with some rather nasty things tainting the round in the barrel, meant for both rapid extirpation of a target and if one did live, then slow, nasty removal of same on so much as a glancing hit.
And if you mean a nasty, vicious thug who derives glee from assaulting, tormenting, potentially sexually assaulting, and bullying other, innocent people, usually/often picking on those they see as weakest and least able to defend themselves or to seek the help of another in defending themselves from such predation and/or sexual exploitation, then yes, they should be destroyed.
Because such are no better than a rabid dog. You cannot cure a dog infected with rabies, all you can do is put it down, hopefully before it kills somebody. And in the case of a rabid animal, they are not sentient humans, and they are not what they are meant to be, because their brain is being destroyed by the virus infection that will kill them too, as well as their victims.
In the case of a homo sapiens who simply derives sustenance and glee from the agony and torture of people, then they are filth. And probably incurably so. Bullies, and simple bullies who know no better may be taught otherwise, but in those who are virulent, torture-loving feasters upon the infliction of suffering, pain and misery upon human beings, then they too, they are worse than a rabid animal. Because whilst a rabid dog may pass on it's dreadful disease before it dies, and cause horrific suffering in the process of this, its acts are not premeditated and do not stem from the cause of the rabid dog's desire to inflict suffering and misery, they do not thrive on it, and have no more responsibility for it, than does an epileptic person who during a seizure, whilst unconscious etc., accidentally strikes a carer across the cheek.
But a homo sapiens sick little fuck, is just that, a sick little fuck. And the best that can be done is to put them down.