It was quite clear what you were implying, Walkie, but claiming that nobody is taking what I said seriously is just not true. If you think you can read people's minds, then read mine.
I wasn't reading minds, Odeon. I was just judging by what people have openly said on this forum. The only person I can see who openly supports your narrative is hiding behind a new account, and not telling us who the heck
he was on AFF. Without a
lot more info than that, I'm not willing to take his opinion seriously, especially not given that it's defamatory.
I've agreed with you that Al's behaviour here is a form of bullying, and I do I stand by what I said. That said, I regret making so strong a point of it when I did. I regret that because I didn't know that this bloody great can of worms was about to be re-opened did I? For my own part, I want Al to think twice about that behaviour. I don't want to beat him about the head with a great big stick until he feels totally justified in resuming said behaviour. Especially not if that entails dredging up some really unsound and unjust asccusatons concerning what went on years ago on another board and citing a bunch of anonymous witnesses.
You're acting as if you've made up your mind to ban Al, and you're desperate to justify that action to yourself. Might be wrong; you
might be thoroughly dishonest , like some people say, but to my mind , I'm looking at a man acting under extreme pressure . And yeah, Al is surely instumental in piling on the pressure. There are no angels here. The
relationship beween you and Al has turned toxic and is bring out the worst in you both. Something needs to be done about that, for everybody's sake.
Well, there's your justification, if you need one: something needs to be done. I've already said that I'd rather let Pyraxis take control ; if therte's a better way forward, she's more likely to find it isn't she? because it isn't
personal to her. You turned down that suggestion. Well, OK, you're the boss, but Al being banned by Odeon is
still the worst-case-scenario for this board, IMO... short of whole board falling apart.
Unlike some, I don't believe you're actually lying, Odeon. (except to yourse;f, maybe) . And I bloody well wish that people would stop crying "Liar" at each other, because it's worse-than- pointless talking things over if nobody is willing to take it on trust that others are doing their best to communicate honestly. Aspies generally
do try to communicate honestly (we're notorious for being
excessively honest , FFS) ... except insofar as that might entail spilling the beans on some deeply personal shit, ofc.
Ofc, neither you nor Al is gonna spill, not in the middle of a fight on the spazznet's most notorious forum, with your detractors taking detailed notes on all you say, to use in evidence against you. That's just natural self-preservation. Can't blame you in the least. However, I don't see it being resolved any other way than by getting under the skin. I think we've got all sorts of personal shit that has nothing to do with this forum coming into this. In an ideal world, you'd both backl off, go into analysis, IRL, and come back with a more detached perspective. But yeah, I know, I know, that's not gonna happen either; that's just my own pleasant little daydream
Oh, and by posting the last few messages, you just lost what little respect I had for you and your opinions.
Well, i'm evidently not currying favour here, am I? I've been open enough about my POV to risk pissing
everybody off. That said, I'm not m,ade of stone. It actually does grieve me to lose your respect. It also grieved me to openly agree with Scap and Co, at this juncture. Not so long back, Al was having a go at
me , in his usual dogged fashion. You backed me up. More than that, your responses were genuinely outraged and flaming angry, so it seemed to me. I was (and remain) grateful for that. I haven't forgotten, nor shall I, but I just don't do that "blind loyalty" thing, especially not when I do actually sympathise with both sides.
I've said it before, but i'll say again: you and Al are both being inflammatory in your different fashions, both goading each other beyond endurance. I don't want to be cheering for Team Odeon and more than I want to be cheering fo Team Al, because I really do believe that only makes matters worse.
I'm bloody sad about the whole damned mess, truth to tell, but I don't believe that scapegoating solves it.
[EDIT. I actually wrote this yesteday, but didnt post it - called away from PC. I now note that IQ also finds the "Al destroyed AFF" theory credible. But that doesn't alter my opinions]