Oddly enough even though I understand the logic behind the Jewish thinking I felt that I had lost a real, live child in each of my miscarriages.
This is a matter that can't and won't be decided until we decide when humanness, a soul begins. That it is a wanted child. That mankind is willing to support the child however.
Is abortion more necessary in a crowded Indian village with a substandard facilities, utilities, health services, education simply because there are too many people?
Is abortion reasonable when a child will require massive amount of medical support with minimal or no good outcome?
How can we be assured that all "unwanted" children are adopted into competent, caring homes? Are there enough homes?
This argument will continue for eons.
Better availability of contraception, including the morning-after pill, would be my first step. That could massively reduce the incidence of unwanted pregnancies. Better social welfare and support for single mothers could also make a huge difference.
In many parts of the world there is surprisingly little debate over abortion. Women have autonomy over their bodies, it is an individual woman's right to choose. The woman's life takes priority in a medical emergency, no need to assemble a committee and advise her of the availability of support services while her life hangs in the balance and every second is critical. Not a massive amount of silly red tape that is designed to make it more difficult and more expensive and more stressful for women to access safe abortions. Maybe the argument doesn't need to drag on for eons, maybe that's the way it should be. If you are religious and you believe in a soul that begins at conception, nobody is forcing you to have an abortion unless you live in China.
Losing a wanted and longed for child through miscarriage is bloody awful. My wife doesn't even remember hers (just the one, thankfully), she has literally shut out all memory of it, and maybe that's a good thing. I remember at the time, I didn't even give myself the option of getting maudlin or grieving, it was just "got to get my wife through this in one piece physically and emotionally". I told her lots of stuff about God's plan even though I don't even believe in God.