Crush

[Fun With Matches]

  Cheap dates are possible.  One can go to museums, concerts, other cultural ... things. 

She can invite him over for Netflix and chill. 

With my family around? No way.

Do you all *really* think he isn't interested?

['andersom']

I would postpone dating till after this month too. December is packed and stressed. A date is stressed enough without a calendar filled with family obligations and shit.

Keep on chatting. See what happens in January. Maybe the two of you by then think friendship is a better option, maybe you'll date.

[Yuri Bezmenov]

  Cheap dates are possible.  One can go to museums, concerts, other cultural ... things. 

She can invite him over for Netflix and chill. 

[Fun With Matches]

I just had another conversation with him. I was just to the point (nothing unusual there) and said I felt like our friend might have pushed him into it. He joked about it, among a great many other things. I told him that I could be intense and that he'd have to let me know if he wanted me to leave him alone because I can't tell. He said "Deal. Same back."

I can't believe he would be that talkative if he didn't like me. He keeps sending clips of his voice reactions (they're funny) and finds YouTube videos to back up his jokes too. I think I may be onto something here.

He said he was shy and skittish, and doesn't always reply. So I gathered, well, actually I asked him if I could talk to him whenever I wanted and keep talking and he said sure. So that means I get his permission to pester him. Yay!

[odeon]

  Cheap dates are possible.  One can go to museums, concerts, other cultural ... things. 

She can invite him over for Netflix and chill. 

[Icequeen]

I would postpone dating till after this month too. December is packed and stressed. A date is stressed enough without a calendar filled with family obligations and shit.

Keep on chatting. See what happens in January. Maybe the two of you by then think friendship is a better option, maybe you'll date.

That.
...and any holiday interaction with extended family at this point in time in your friendship can be lethal. 

I didn't have any holiday interaction with my ex's family until we were engaged...which I don't ever recommend doing either. 

I spent the next day going...
"OMG, OMG, WTF am I doing?"
"WTH is wrong with these people?"
 

We are still together somehow, but they are 90% of the reason we ended up divorced. 

[Fun With Matches]

I would postpone dating till after this month too. December is packed and stressed. A date is stressed enough without a calendar filled with family obligations and shit.

Keep on chatting. See what happens in January. Maybe the two of you by then think friendship is a better option, maybe you'll date.

That.
...and any holiday interaction with extended family at this point in time in your friendship can be lethal. 

I didn't have any holiday interaction with my ex's family until we were engaged...which I don't ever recommend doing either. 

I spent the next day going...
"OMG, OMG, WTF am I doing?"
"WTH is wrong with these people?"
 

We are still together somehow, but they are 90% of the reason we ended up divorced. 

Wow. I can completely see that, families are fucking judgemental and are a nightmare. They put all these ridiculous expectations on you that they never would on other people close to them. It's always on the partner of their offspring. They are unreasonable.

[Pyraxis]

My first BF, I had the weirdly cool experience of getting along with his family, especially his mother. They invited me to their Christmas the first year and treated me like one of them. I think his mother dreamed of having a daughter and ended up with only boys.

Shame it didn't last. WolFish's family on the other hand... 

[renaeden]

Kayleigh's family treat me like one of them too. They are on the other side of the country and I have only been there three times, but they have always made my stays memorable in a good way. I wish we were going there this Christmas.

["couldbecousin"]

Kayleigh's family treat me like one of them too. They are on the other side of the country and I have only been there three times, but they have always made my stays memorable in a good way. I wish we were going there this Christmas.

  You seem as if you would be a likable addition to a family Christmas. 

[Fun With Matches]

I take back all that I said earlier in this thread.

There...simple.

I just want someone to show a big deal of interest in *me*, actually listen to *ME* and don't mess me about. DON'T IGNORE ME...EVER.

[Fun With Matches]

And to my friends: Don't set me up with someone who "doesn't respond for several DAYS". What's the matter with people???

[renaeden]

Kayleigh's family treat me like one of them too. They are on the other side of the country and I have only been there three times, but they have always made my stays memorable in a good way. I wish we were going there this Christmas.

You seem as if you would be a likable addition to a family Christmas. 

Thank you, that's a very nice thing to say. Don't you wish you could be with whoever you want for Christmas?