I mean, I want passion more than anything, but distance (and patience) at first to attract me to them. Once I'm hooked, I don't need distance, in fact it turns me off.
As for someone taking charge, it's usually been me wearing the trousers in a relationship. I don't want a doormat, though, I need the man to be direct too, and tactful. I can't stand passive aggressiveness, or a man hinting at me in a mopey way to do something, it's really annoying. Just tell me.
I seem to prefer chasing. That said, most of my relationships have been started by me, the men seemed to realise I preferred to initiate things, at first anyway while I'm getting to know them.
I prefer when making contact that we both make the same amount of effort. I'm most comfortable with that.