Wasn't the WFM thing Al, I was away from AFF for half a year when that happened. Did not recognise the site back when I returned. Distrust everywhere. And when the site then fell to pieces with Amy melting down there first were rescue attempts behind the scenes via PM. Noble and such. Then came the distrust, who was good, who was evil, who was to be thrown out of the circle of confidants. People got completely paranoid about their online safety. About their IP addresses and such, things got more and more secluded. This went on in a different way on Spectrumites. I got warned to stay clear of you, because you apparently are a really horrible man, and I would regret it to my dying day if I stayed in contact with you. (Still not regretting it) There were attempts to get people banned, or keep them banned forever preemptively behind the scenes. There was all kinds of shit going on and I got sick of it. I got a slap on the wrist as an admin, when I told a very much "loved" member to stop his shit. I left there because of the culture behind the scenes.
Don't get me wrong, I like PMs, but they are personal messages to me. It may be related to the site, but the moment I get warnings a person cannot be trusted or things like that I get really triggered.
To me this PM was the trigger on top of being incredibly bored by the "feud".