... Even when we were friends before we started our relationship, he only ever pursued one girlfriend at a time. I find it very difficult to believe that he is the only man in the world like that. Maybe you are attracted to the wrong sort of people. I am sorry that person hurt you.
Same here, McBlob ... it can be very tough in the single world. I know! I was definitely attracted to the wrong kind of women in the early years of my search for a dependable mate and I paid a price. I gave up more than once and frustration and loneliness took over and I returned to the game, each time with more pain and baggage holding me back, along with all the other things, like my innate difficulty flirting, reading between the body language and small talking.
In typical. desperate male fashion, I fished the whole ocean, but when I got a bite, (meaning - someone took notice of my boundless charms
) I became totally a one woman man and my attention and focus was all on 'her'. I have been married to (as close to a soul mate as I can imagine) a wonderful woman for fourteen years, now. (I think I said fifteen years in my intro, but I just now did the math correctly.) She has never had any reason to think that I would cheat on her in any way, and I haven't, and I won't, even though we both have traveled all over the state separately, with other people we worked with (Opposite sex often, even overnight). There is a level of trust between us and our continued success together and sanity, for that matter, depends on that trust.
Sure, I get on here and act like a horny teenager, trying to cop an e-feel from all the girls, (that horny teen is still in my personality) but it's all meant in fun. I may imagine myself as a prize, but the real prize is the relationship that my wife and I have built based on friendship and respect for each other, but it took us many years to find each other.
