Then you'd best stick to the borderlines who will be responsive to that kind of all or nothing approach.
You may like things settled, and that is understandable with day-to-day things, but you cannot allow your autistic focus to become attached to things which are intrusive to a person you are trying to approach. Like oh say what's in their pants.
Other other intimate personal details like that. That is how boundaries get violated and that is how rapes happen. Not every woman will have the confidence to tell you to fuck off when they get uncomfortable, loudly and forcefully enough for it to penetrate your haze of self-righteous "logic".