Friendship regret

[Bastet]

One time when I was a teen I agreed to meet two people from an IRC chat.
I saw them from a distance, and they looked like complete morons.
I know one can't judge a book by it's cover, but I did, and left.
Afterwards I felt a little bit bad, and we didn't resume contact online.

I judge people upon first glance but keep my mouth shut about it. I give everyone a chance because you never know who you are missing out on if you judge by first impressions. My only tthing is the person shouldn't smell bad. I am very sensitive to bad smells.

[ZEGH8578]

One time when I was a teen I agreed to meet two people from an IRC chat.
I saw them from a distance, and they looked like complete morons.
I know one can't judge a book by it's cover, but I did, and left.
Afterwards I felt a little bit bad, and we didn't resume contact online.

I judge people upon first glance but keep my mouth shut about it. I give everyone a chance because you never know who you are missing out on if you judge by first impressions. My only tthing is the person shouldn't smell bad. I am very sensitive to bad smells.

They didn't notice me. It was crowded, but I noticed them cus they were clearly waiting for someone where we agreed to meet.
I don't like insulting people irl, especially since most badmouthing of people would he glass-house-rock-throwing activity. Most people are similar, and their flaws similar as well:I

[odeon]

Richard try going to gem/rock shows and posting on a forum dedicated to the subject. You have learned a lot about gems/rocks and other rock hounds will respect what you have to say about it once they see a few of your posts or ftf discussions on it. When I discuss something I know a bit about, like guns, there is no concern about what to say next.

This is good advice PPK. However, I never really gave it much thought to tie my intrest in with friendships. I guess when I am trying to make a friend I do as the romans do, 

But thanks. I'm thinking you are right, I have serious motivation issues with leaving all of you wonderful people behind though. 

we shall see

You don't have to leave us behind. It is perfectly feasible to post on two boards.

["couldbecousin"]

Dang. congratulations! that's quite a accomplishment indeed
I hope someday I can get those kind of numbers

Donkey shine. You will if you just keep putting one foot in front of the other Richard. 

  Now I am thinking about shiny donkeys. 

[renaeden]

I ended a long-term friendship last year. I supported my friend through many hospital admissions for depression (visited her a lot even though it was over an hour's ride on the train and half an hour's walk).

But when she decided she wanted to be anorexic (yes, she really did put it that way) I didn't understand why. I am dealing with weight gain the proper way I know how - with healthy food and 45 minutes of exercise every day. My friend kept sending me texts about how she threw up her dinner every night and how she felt guilty about eating any food, how she was tired all the time and yet how pleased she was at losing weight and asking me how much I weigh, which is many more kilos than she does. Eventually I said to her that I couldn't support her down the path she chose for herself and the stuff she sent to me was very triggery and I couldn't handle it. She said I was giving her an ultimatum - my friendship or anorexia. And she wouldn't choose me. So our friendship ended.

I still think about her a lot and hope she is well and recovered.

[Kapkao]

Al you can take your reply and shove It up your fat ass. bitter people trying to make a genuine reply is laughable

Thank you for your valuable response. I will just file that away for you



There, now where were we? In this thread you have accused two people of being bitter. Is this a new catchphrase? An attempt at psychoanalysis? A hip new buzzword?

OR

An effort to project your own woeful insecurities on others?


(Guess which i am backing?)

['andersom']

I ended a long-term friendship last year. I supported my friend through many hospital admissions for depression (visited her a lot even though it was over an hour's ride on the train and half an hour's walk).

But when she decided she wanted to be anorexic (yes, she really did put it that way) I didn't understand why. I am dealing with weight gain the proper way I know how - with healthy food and 45 minutes of exercise every day. My friend kept sending me texts about how she threw up her dinner every night and how she felt guilty about eating any food, how she was tired all the time and yet how pleased she was at losing weight and asking me how much I weigh, which is many more kilos than she does. Eventually I said to her that I couldn't support her down the path she chose for herself and the stuff she sent to me was very triggery and I couldn't handle it. She said I was giving her an ultimatum - my friendship or anorexia. And she wouldn't choose me. So our friendship ended.

I still think about her a lot and hope she is well and recovered.

Looks like you did the best for you, and probably the best for her too. She can't use you as a mental supporter for her way of life this way.

Good choice, really hard one though.

I actively cut off a friendship bit more than ten years ago. I'm still glad I did.

[sg1008]

Richard try going to gem/rock shows and posting on a forum dedicated to the subject. You have learned a lot about gems/rocks and other rock hounds will respect what you have to say about it once they see a few of your posts or ftf discussions on it. When I discuss something I know a bit about, like guns, there is no concern about what to say next.

Interestingly, I went to a gem show for the first time a few weeks ago. It was cool. I especially enjoyed the fossils and crystals....although one lady yelled at me for for touching the boulder cracker. Why do you have it out if you don't want people to touch it? Put up a sign....geesh.

I think she just wanted to yell at me cause I'm black.

Anyways...good luck finding friends...for myself, I am working on friendships online since they seem to be the most fruitful for me.

[El]

Richard try going to gem/rock shows and posting on a forum dedicated to the subject. You have learned a lot about gems/rocks and other rock hounds will respect what you have to say about it once they see a few of your posts or ftf discussions on it. When I discuss something I know a bit about, like guns, there is no concern about what to say next.

QFT

[RageBeoulve]

RICHARD UR A PUSSY U PUSSY