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Offline Jesse

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When encountering others
« on: May 30, 2013, 05:34:40 PM »
In public. I suggest a nice big smile, I walk frequently and starring problems are a real issue. I noticed if I flash a nice smile at them it defuses the situation down and makes it more pleasant for eye contact, and such. try it next time, I don't think anybody has ever been faced with that awkward position of social interaction with a smile. (that feeling of like this person wants to fight me) That's the feeling I get anyways when faced with a starring problem. what do you guys think?
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Re: When encountering others
« Reply #1 on: May 30, 2013, 05:40:24 PM »
I agree. Yes.

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Re: When encountering others
« Reply #2 on: May 30, 2013, 05:46:36 PM »
I wouldn't do this to teenagers though. you might get called a fag, however most adults will repay a smile with a friendly hello or smile back
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Re: When encountering others
« Reply #3 on: May 30, 2013, 05:54:00 PM »
Yes being casually friendly in public is a good idea.
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Re: When encountering others
« Reply #4 on: May 30, 2013, 05:59:54 PM »
I avoid eye contact, but tend to smile a lot. Annoyingly, it seems to make strangers think that I'm the type of person who enjoys talking to them :-[
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Re: When encountering others
« Reply #5 on: May 30, 2013, 06:05:16 PM »
I like to ask questions like:
Hey?
Sup dawg?
Wassup?
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Re: When encountering others
« Reply #6 on: May 30, 2013, 07:08:46 PM »
  I often give strangers a brief, clenched smile to demonstrate that I am not a rude bitch.  :tard:
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Re: When encountering others
« Reply #7 on: May 30, 2013, 08:23:24 PM »
Quote from: Butterflies on May 30, 2013, 05:59:54 PM
I avoid eye contact, but tend to smile a lot. Annoyingly, it seems to make strangers think that I'm the type of person who enjoys talking to them :-[

That.

It also tends to give guys the impression I am warm, caring, and sweet.

It's a trap. >:D
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Re: When encountering others
« Reply #8 on: May 30, 2013, 08:41:01 PM »
Quote from: McAnarchist on May 30, 2013, 06:05:16 PM
I like to ask questions like:
Hey?
Sup dawg?
Wassup?

That might get you jumped in certain neighborhoods.
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Can't you guys even just imagine it?

Forget practicality, or your experience....can you just....imagine?

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Re: When encountering others
« Reply #9 on: May 30, 2013, 08:43:28 PM »
Generally smile a lot and know it helps; make a point to be attentive when it's needed. Though most times don't really want to be bothered when out alone in public. Have more than once pretended to be deaf; that shuts them up.
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Re: When encountering others
« Reply #10 on: May 30, 2013, 08:43:47 PM »
Quote from: Nile on May 30, 2013, 05:34:40 PM
In public. I suggest a nice big smile, I walk frequently and starring problems are a real issue. I noticed if I flash a nice smile at them it defuses the situation down and makes it more pleasant for eye contact, and such. try it next time, I don't think anybody has ever been faced with that awkward position of social interaction with a smile. (that feeling of like this person wants to fight me) That's the feeling I get anyways when faced with a starring problem. what do you guys think?

I have issues like this as well esp since walking is my main mode of transportation. Someone suggested I wear sunglasses; I think that would diffuse the eye-contact stress a whole lot, but I don't like stuff on my face so I haven't tried it out.

When I was younger I would simply cross the street to avoid people, but now I am much more conscious of the fact that crossing when they pass, and then crossing back, might seem offensive.  :apondering:

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Quote from: hykeaswell on December 08, 2014, 04:14:58 AM
Quote from: sg1008 on December 08, 2014, 12:31:27 AM
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Re: When encountering others
« Reply #11 on: May 30, 2013, 09:20:32 PM »
Quote from: sg1008 on May 30, 2013, 08:41:01 PM
Quote from: McAnarchist on May 30, 2013, 06:05:16 PM
I like to ask questions like:
Hey?
Sup dawg?
Wassup?

That might get you jumped in certain neighborhoods.
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Re: When encountering others
« Reply #12 on: May 30, 2013, 11:57:32 PM »
A smile is generally a good idea. Or, a brief nod and a smile when at the office.
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Re: When encountering others
« Reply #13 on: May 31, 2013, 01:23:04 AM »
Quote from: odeon on May 30, 2013, 11:57:32 PM
A smile is generally a good idea. Or, a brief nod and a smile when at the office.

  Or a cheesy, taunting grin  :green:  as you walk past an office enemy who's just screwed up bigtime!
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Re: When encountering others
« Reply #14 on: May 31, 2013, 01:25:27 AM »
Quote from: couldbecousin on May 31, 2013, 01:23:04 AM
Quote from: odeon on May 30, 2013, 11:57:32 PM
A smile is generally a good idea. Or, a brief nod and a smile when at the office.

  Or a cheesy, taunting grin  :green:  as you walk past an office enemy who's just screwed up bigtime!
:agreed:
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