When I am treated with respect by those with authority, I have no problem with them. No problem with disagreeing with them either. But, no rebellion tendencies.
The moment the respect is gone, they loose all respect from me too. It's kinda physical, starting with the spine and neck.
I'm told I can be icy cold and threatening, in a too polite way.
I do know my despair when not getting through too.
My kids are welcome to question me. But, not too late in the evening. Then none of us is sensible enough to have a good debate. Too late on the day, it should be calm. So, then they will have to listen to me, and rage against me the next day.
Works most of the time.