I would sometimes want to disclose my dx. It would help, I think. Problem is, I don't know that but I do know that it's something that can never be undone.
certainly there are those that suspect?
Yes, I'm pretty sure there are. There's a workmate who I work with a lot that knows my son is autistic and I think it's likely he's drawn a few conclusions.
Funny, I am out. Getting diagnosed during a huge break-down kinda makes that happen automatically. I find it not hard, in many occasions to tell that I am an aspie. I find it way harder to disclose that my daughter is on the spectrum. I can stand up for myself. I don't want people to make assumptions about her, without knowing her, or without her knowing.
It does make it harder to find a new job. Also because I fall between the cracks. Disability income, for disability existing since childhood, is used here to get people into a job. When I applied for it, the man told me I was exactly the kind of person the income was meant for, but, due to some technicalities, I would not get it. That leaves me without a paid job, so far. Somehow all the years I worked without knowing I was autistic have lost their value, for employers. Crisis is not helping either. End of this year, my income contact will try to get me into some other way to get me placed somewhere. Till then, I prove that I can work, by volunteering. And she will use that as proof that hiring me is worth a shot.
I do know people who got a good job, fitting their interest and education, after disclosing their autism, because they did have the "disability from childhood" income safety net. It takes away the risk of employers to hire someone who might be a risk to hire.