How old are you Gen? Were you actually surprised that saying that about a young child's effort received a negative response? A s p I e does not have to = complete stupidity. If too honest means unnecessary rudeness than I can damn near guarantee you will get the same negative response pretty much everywhere you choose to share your honesty.
Unfortunately I am one of those aspies that do say things like that. Maybe saying "She isn't very good at it" or "She sounds horrible" "she needs more practice" be better? I try to think of better things to say and still be honest than being brutally honest. I have had "fat" slipped out of my mouth a few times after I knew it's rude to call people fat and it just came right out without even thinking and that person be around when I said it about them. Then I be embarrassed every time and then I get over it quick when no one be mad. I think it's more of an ADD thing for me because they say things without thinking and they know what they are saying is rude but it comes right out before they could even stop it (it's like Tourette's) while aspies don't know what they are saying is rude so they have no way of thinking before saying it. I used to have that problem more as a child and I had little control over it and now I have lot of control over it. Occasionally I slip up. One time online I said to my aspie friend "maybe it's because you're fat" and I saw the word I typed and I deleted it and thought of a better way of saying it so I said "Maybe it's because of your size" and he knew what I was thinking because he said "I am not fat Beth."
What is the point in political correctness if people are going to know what you mean? But thank god for internet because you can see what you type and delete it before you send it. But if it were real life, that may have just came right out of my mouth and it be too late because I had already said it and then caught myself. Same as if we were talking on the phone.
But luckily people laugh at what I say too so I don't let it bother me. But lot of the times they won't even tell me why they are laughing so I can't even learn from it. Are they laughing because I was cute or funny or did I say something wrong, was I honest or are they laughing at me? If it's nice people, I don't assume they are laughing at me.
I think aspies out there that do say rude things intentionally or say things they know would offend or may upset someone because it's their honest opinion, not AS. I also don't see it as a social problem either like they claim it to be and also blaming it on their AS. I do agree with some people who think people use AS to say whatever they want.
But no doubt there are aspies out there who do actually say rude things like that and go insulting people to their faces like calling them stupid and not actually know they are being mean nor insulting but they be in the minority. Just like only 10% of people with Tourette's yell profanity and racial slurs due to their tics. John Robison was one of those aspies that say insulting rude things to people like "No you fool." But he doesn't do it anymore because he learned. I learned too but at a lot younger age than him. In his "Look me in the Eye", he wrote rude things like "Stupid kid" about his brother and saying his brother was an accident. But I figured he was talking from back then, what he thought back then vs now. I didn't know saying kids were accidents was a horrible thing to say either. I learned just from reading online and people really react to hearing they were an accident or when people say a kid was an accident, same as calling them a mistake. People ignore the context the words are being used in and only react to their emotions and think emotionally than logically. They wouldn't care what you meant and what context it's used in, they would only care about the word and judge you for it and assume you mean what it means to them than what you meant by it. But yet I have seen mothers say online about their kids like "She was the best accident ever" "She was the best mistake ever" But yet no one seems to react to that. Meh.
