"The Aspeger's?" That makes it sound like it's some terrible disease. I would have said something like "Asperger's? Yes" in that situation.
My mother worked hard with me growing up, teaching me how to talk, telling me social stories, drawing me pictures and showing me pictures so I can change my way of thinking and see things differently and from another perspective. It even take her hours to explain a situation to me so I understand and she had to draw me pictures because I was visual. She never really held me back or gave me a shelter life, she let kids come over and play with me, took my brothers and I to other peoples houses for us to play with their kids, it was like a play date thing they did, mom also wanted me with normal kids so when I was signed up for t ball, the coach told my mother I should be in the special league but my mother refused and he said she would have to stand out in the field with me and she said if that is what she has to do, she will. She even signed me up for gymnastics and the teacher there also told my mother I should be in psychical therapy because my coordination was poor and my mom said she would rather have me be with other kids who are also messing up and I feel normal instead of broken. She even had me do pottery so help with my motor skills and I felt normal. Plus she took me to lot of doctor appointments growing up and if it weren't for her, I wouldn't have gotten this far. Teachers in my high school tried holding me back though because they thought I was incapable like with driving or being in drama and even kids acted like I was incapable. I think I was a very difficult child but mom won't admit it and she says all kids are hard and all children embarrass their parents and she said my brothers were probably just as expensive as I was because they also had to pay for their school activities and for their school trips and buying them clothes they wear out and outgrew while she and dad had to pay for my medicine and therapies and doctors. I am sure their health insurance covered it too. I also moved out when I was almost 20 and I got my driver's license when I was nearly 17. Now they are living with me again which is ironic because it's like I had gone backwards. But it's the same with my sister in law too, she and her parents also live together. She has lived on her own before but she needs help financially and has been trying to get a job for the past year. I am also my parents only child who has never asked them for anything as an adult and my brothers had. I always try to avoid that and it's always the last on my list. If they offer, it's different.
I would probably be like one of those aspies who think they can't do anything if my parents held me back and thought I was incapable and I would probably still be single and childless. I believe some aspies get brainwashed into believing they can't learn this or that so they use their AS as an excuse for it because that is what they have been taught. But I try not to judge when i hear an aspie is still living at home and their parents are coddling them because I don't know how badly they are effected by it and what their limitations are and I don't know their situation.
As for adult kids living at home, no problem if they are going to school or they have a job and are saving their money hoping to move out soon. Or if they end up in a sit hole and they need to move back home until they get back on their feet again or if the parent needs to be taken care of due to old age and sometimes their adult child moves back in or has them move in with them so they can take care of him or her or the adult child needs help raising their child so their parents help them out. Sure if the child has a disability and they will never be independent due to their severe autism or mental retardation, etc. then I still see no problem with it. Some do put them in group homes however and I still see nothing wrong with that either.
