@ Callaway:
Is she calling you a Ho because you have a husband? I've seen her call you a Ho any number of times, but I haven't seen her say anything about your husband. I think you're still making assumptions.
In fact there's a post somewhere, which I'll track down if I absolutely bloody have to, where she says something like she's calling you and Bodie Ho's because she sees that it pisses you off. Nothing there about husbands either.
As for the rest of it, hm. My first thought was good point.
It gets into territory of accepting one's weaknesses, though. It doesn't do much good to force false acceptance on people, but when someone's weaknesses are too well protected, then they become too resistant to change, in a bad way. Like having your weak points prodded a bit can be a healthy thing both for you and the people around you, in that it gets you to examine and heal them instead of just plastering over them.
I do what I can to figure out when people have been pushed too far, but sometimes I'm wrong.
Am I wrong about you?
She also said something like I'm a dumb fuck Ho
who couldn't exist without a man, so I would think that was bringing my husband into it, yes. If she lives in a beautiful little house that someone else pays for on her behalf, then that's highly relevant. If she's saying it to upset me and Bodaccea, then people who live in glass houses should not throw stones. If she thinks that we are butthurt over her saying it, then I think she's posting in the mirror.
I sort of agree about your point about not picking on weaker people, at least not if they haven't done anything to you first, but at the same time if someone weaker picks on you or someone else first, then they have to take you as they find you, IMO. I realize that I probably am much more intelligent than she is, but I can hardly tie half my brain behind my back to bring myself down to her level. Nor can the other members of the site, most of whom are smarter than she is.
I can see that you like her and want her to stay for your own reasons. However, if she insults most of the members of the site, I don't think that it's fair to ask them to hold back from flaming her because she's less intelligent (or less whatever) than they are. I believe that if she thinks that she should be protected from flames while flaming others herself, Intensity just doesn't work that way. Her problem is, most other sites she might try to join instead would probably just quickly ban her as soon as she acted like this.
People each have their own strengths and weaknesses. I'm sure that she's a better artist than I am since I can barely draw a straight line. Nobody would suggest to her that she wear heavy gloves while she painted or drew to level the playing field.
I see from the posts that have piled up that you are trying to portray this as just Bodaccea and me against Meadow, but I think that's inaccurate. I think that it's Meadow against most of the active members of Intensity since there aren't too many active members that she hasn't insulted.