I am and I also can understand her words better than most people can because she has some trouble speaking clearly enough so that all people can understand her. Because of this, I'm with her at school now too. She's doing a lot better than she was without me there, but she can still be aggressive there at times even with me there with her.
You want to go there? Ok, let's go there.
Is she doing better by her definition or by yours?
Both by my and her definitions and also by the objective data her teachers are keeping. She says that it's the best school she has ever attended while she was not saying that before. Before, she would always say that the school she attended in third grade (right after the special education teacher at her neighborhood school abused her in second grade) was the best one she ever attended.
It sounds like your daughter has been through a lot. I could understand why she'd want you to come to school with her. This thread kind of got hijacked, but can I still ask questions? Is she in a mainstream class? Does she think that school is better because you're there? It makes me wonder if the occasional aggression isn't intermittent reinforcement for you to keep going with her, especially if you are communicating with the teachers for her.
Sorry about the hijack.
No, she is in a large classroom without any other children and with three other teachers besides me, but not all the teachers work with her at the same time. She often eats lunch in the cafeteria with many other students, but she sits at her own table with just me and one or two other teachers.
I am the one who usually gets her to do more challenging work at school and I believe that it's because she feels safer at school with me there. She can be very afraid of making a mistake, but I'm pretty good at bridging the gap if there is one and she can always ask me for help.
I think that there are many reasons for the physical aggression, but probably one of the reasons for a lot of it is feeling insecure or unsafe in a situation. She told me that she thinks that her teachers wouldn't do anything to harm her with me there. I think that's sad because she really had a teacher who did harm her when she was in the second grade. However I don't think that any of her current teachers would deliberately harm her whether or not I was there. I think that she needs to build up more positive experiences with them so she can begin to trust them on her own terms.
She really doesn't need to act out to keep me there. I will be there for the foreseeable future and at least for the rest of this school year.
