You know what the fucking problem is?
Butterflies is acting like an NT.
Yes, I'm going to be a raging bigot here. Bear with me.
She successfully got a posse together and hounded down a spazztastic fucktard and made his life miserable to the point of epic meltdown. Now she's back on her own territory, her friends are all patting her on the back while she further talks shit about him and anyone who objects to the whole mess. When she thinks she's going to get in trouble she makes excuses for her behavior. When she thinks she'll get more social credit for owning up, she owns up. If that's not NT social chameleon bullshit, I never went to middle school.
Go on, Butterflies. You've graduated. You are successfully able to bully an autistic man and his possibly battered wife. Yay for you. Asperger's or not, you've graduated Intensity.
Now turn around, if you're a decent human being, and think about what it would mean to use that ability well.
There's a reason the kids here keep insisting you're fine and the big guns got outraged. This community is about enabling the spazzes. Who are you enabling? Yourself? That's great, if you're still young and learning. That's just fine, self-empowerment and all that. But once you get adept at it, then further grinding the point home - and doing your utmost to minimize it and erase it when people call you on it - crosses the line into cruelty.
Sure, we can tolerate it. We all want to get by in the NT world, right? Learning more and more NT behavior is only an advantage.
But I for one don't think it makes for a good community. It only repeats the bullshit that created a need for an Intensity in the first place.
I don't think Butterflies is evil. I do think she needs to grow up.