Oh I'm not saying what the mother did was right I am wondering if it would have been worse for them if she hadn't "gone along with it".
...and had, like, gotten the fuck OUT of that situation? Yeah, the dad had a fuckton of political swing. Mom
still got out eventually. Why didn't she get out sooner?
Mom failed as a mom. Straight up. Just because she's a victim too doesn't means she's blameless.
The daughter is still all fucked up about what her role should be in the family. She regrets hurting her father's career? Just wanted him to get help?
forserious? Sounds like she's still damaged and still emotionally enmeshed in an unhealthy way. Probably is with mer mother, too. It happens in familys with domestic violence. Her role might well have been/might still be "people pleaser." Unless she works through this shite more than a bit, if she doesn't end up with a guy that abuses her, it'll be a bloody miracle, might I add.