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Do you need to love yourself before it's possible to love another person ?

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Offline earthboundmisfit

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Re: Do you need to love yourself before it's possible to love another person ?
« Reply #15 on: October 27, 2011, 08:51:55 AM »


I "love" myself ALL the time.   :zoinks:
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Re: Do you need to love yourself before it's possible to love another person ?
« Reply #16 on: October 27, 2011, 09:10:25 AM »
Love is just a chemical reaction in the brain. It causes nothing but trouble.
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Re: Do you need to love yourself before it's possible to love another person ?
« Reply #17 on: October 27, 2011, 01:07:34 PM »
ok so for people who think yes... do OTHER PEOPLE need to love themselves before THEY can love someone else?

I still don't get what it means to love yourself. That doesn't mean I'm incapable of loving someone else though. I just don't get it. Why WOULD you love yourself? I don't hate myself, but I don't love myself either

What is love anyway? Who are you (or I) to say whether someone else's love is real or bullshit, or whther they are even capable of it?
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Re: Do you need to love yourself before it's possible to love another person ?
« Reply #18 on: October 27, 2011, 01:11:07 PM »
Loving yourself means taking care of yourself and wanting the best for yourself.

No one is saying anyone's love is not real or bullshit here.  Just that not loving yourself leads to unhealthy, codependent relationships.  That's only my opinion though.
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Re: Do you need to love yourself before it's possible to love another person ?
« Reply #19 on: October 27, 2011, 01:13:53 PM »
I take care of myself and want the best for myself, but not sure I would say I love myself. I mean I want the best for most people, but I don't love them all

imo, saying you NEED to be in a certain state before you are capable of loving someone is saying that that isn't real or valid
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Re: Do you need to love yourself before it's possible to love another person ?
« Reply #20 on: October 27, 2011, 01:16:47 PM »
Quote from: Adam on October 27, 2011, 01:13:53 PM
imo, saying you NEED to be in a certain state before you are capable of loving someone is saying that that isn't real or valid

I don't agree with that.  I just think that loving yourself makes the relationship healthier.
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Re: Do you need to love yourself before it's possible to love another person ?
« Reply #21 on: October 27, 2011, 01:20:15 PM »
I wasn't responding to your post tho, just people in general who voted Yes
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Re: Do you need to love yourself before it's possible to love another person ?
« Reply #22 on: October 27, 2011, 01:21:59 PM »
I know.  Just wanted to make my position clear :laugh:
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Re: Do you need to love yourself before it's possible to love another person ?
« Reply #23 on: October 27, 2011, 01:23:18 PM »
oh ok I thought you were disagreeing with me coz you thought I was disagreeing with you :M

nevermind lol
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Re: Do you need to love yourself before it's possible to love another person ?
« Reply #24 on: October 27, 2011, 01:32:41 PM »
I guess, if you love yourself, you feel more confident, know what you want in a lover/SO.  I think V said it best, "Be comfortable in your own skin", that can make a big difference.  Thats my 2 cents worth! 
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Re: Do you need to love yourself before it's possible to love another person ?
« Reply #25 on: October 27, 2011, 01:35:31 PM »
Maybe that's one of the reasons I don't get the "love yourself" stuff. I am not comfortable in my own skin. I don't hate myself tho and I have confidence
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Re: Do you need to love yourself before it's possible to love another person ?
« Reply #26 on: October 27, 2011, 01:41:57 PM »
Quote from: Adam on October 27, 2011, 01:35:31 PM
Maybe that's one of the reasons I don't get the "love yourself" stuff. I am not comfortable in my own skin. I don't hate myself tho and I have confidence

It is more complicated then to just "love yourself".   
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Re: Do you need to love yourself before it's possible to love another person ?
« Reply #27 on: October 27, 2011, 02:25:58 PM »
I think if you don't love yourself first you could become dependent on someone else for your happiness or become blind sometimes to things that you shouldn't.

I don't know, like math, love really isn't one of my good subjects.  :LOL:
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Re: Do you need to love yourself before it's possible to love another person ?
« Reply #28 on: October 27, 2011, 02:31:10 PM »
ok, so it's not healthy love

but does that mean it isnt REAL ? I dont understand that. My feelings arent real ?
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Re: Do you need to love yourself before it's possible to love another person ?
« Reply #29 on: October 27, 2011, 02:38:13 PM »
Quote from: eris on October 27, 2011, 02:31:10 PM
ok, so it's not healthy love

but does that mean it isnt REAL ? I dont understand that. My feelings arent real ?
 

Sure it's real, but like a triple hot fudge sundae, it's just probably not as good for you as the salad.
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