If it is indeed true, that the awful stuff came from TCO under the guise of Pandora, then I think you should have a talk with her Les, as a friend. I doubt that after so many years (presumably) with him, she'd be completely clueless about his bullshit but maybe she doesn't realise the full extent of it or turns a blind eye. Maybe he manipulates her on a daily basis, I don't know. She should at least deserve to know the type of shit he spouts when he's at his worst and the fact that he doesn't take responsibility for his own actions.