He's completely lost it. I wonder what he is telling Pandora, considering that she seems to believe in everything he says.
He appears to be lying to her about me. She has claimed that I whine about being bullied. I would strongly disagree with that. I'm not a big whiner, and I dont get bullied.
She also claims that I brag about being able to lie to you guys to make the believe me rather than Steve. It would be pretty stupid of me to make that boast where you could all see it, and Steve and I don't interact in private.
Let's play pretend here. Non-judgmental hypotheticals.
Let's pretend that a poster on Autistic boards had a spouce that similarly posted on Autistic boards. let's further pretend that their relationship was such that they supported each other over and above relatively anonymous Autistic people on a board that they were not a member of.
Would, in this instance, it be outside the realms of possibility to consider that anything said by these 'strangers" have no bearing at all on what their partner says and thinks and the distress or information fed to the spouse have far more "real life" weight than whatever the "strangers" have to bring to the table (right, wrong or indifferent?)
Reality is what we perceive.
Let's presume that if someone was to be called something horrid at a forum they were not at all nvolved with, that they would have no real desire to go onto the forum and "seek truth" or "thrash out justifications" or whatever. This type of second hand or first hand knowledge would colour a person's view of an entire forum.
We (as members of a forum) could say "Oh but that was because of X and we had justification because of Y" but seriously, do you think that is going to matter to a person that has been maligned by strangers and upset has upset their spouse? We are not talking about a member here, we are talkimg about someone who's only connection to this place is that their real life spouse has been upset by this place and that they are aware of being called something horrid.
put it into any other context. How about, your spouse goes to a sports club a couple of times a week and his fun times and good games have now degenerated into a bitch nightly aout a few dickheads there. She has seen some of the said dickheads and sees the worst in these dickheads and does not see any reason to see anything more in the people. That is her sole exposure.
Why would she not badmouth said dickheads and encourage spouse to move away and further try to extract spouse from said dickheads after firing a few barrages? Seriously, who would not? Are you saying that she should come on and read through all posts and learn the characters here and appreciate the culture and reserve judgement and question her spouse?
I think that is asking a bit much of anyone.
If Hyke or my kids were faced with anything that distressed them, I would not care to examine such things. I would look to condemn that which hurt them and seek to protect and move them away from that which hurts them. No brainer and it does not involve running an investigative reconnaisance of the situation. It just involves protecting them and getting them safe and clear.
That is real life of course.
I'm simply wondering why his behaviour
where she can observe it first hand does not make her ask a single question. I don't think she'd be likely to come here and investigate, but since he's been banned from more than one place, both for using his account and hers, wouldn't you at least wonder what was going on?
