He's completely lost it. I wonder what he is telling Pandora, considering that she seems to believe in everything he says.
He appears to be lying to her about me. She has claimed that I whine about being bullied. I would strongly disagree with that. I'm not a big whiner, and I dont get bullied.
She also claims that I brag about being able to lie to you guys to make the believe me rather than Steve. It would be pretty stupid of me to make that boast where you could all see it, and Steve and I don't interact in private.
Let's play pretend here. Non-judgmental hypotheticals.
Let's pretend that a poster on Autistic boards had a spouce that similarly posted on Autistic boards. let's further pretend that their relationship was such that they supported each other over and above relatively anonymous Autistic people on a board that they were not a member of.
Would, in this instance, it be outside the realms of possibility to consider that anything said by these 'strangers" have no bearing at all on what their partner says and thinks and the distress or information fed to the spouse have far more "real life" weight than whatever the "strangers" have to bring to the table (right, wrong or indifferent?)
Reality is what we perceive.
Let's presume that if someone was to be called something horrid at a forum they were not at all nvolved with, that they would have no real desire to go onto the forum and "seek truth" or "thrash out justifications" or whatever. This type of second hand or first hand knowledge would colour a person's view of an entire forum.
We (as members of a forum) could say "Oh but that was because of X and we had justification because of Y" but seriously, do you think that is going to matter to a person that has been maligned by strangers and upset has upset their spouse? We are not talking about a member here, we are talkimg about someone who's only connection to this place is that their real life spouse has been upset by this place and that they are aware of being called something horrid.
put it into any other context. How about, your spouse goes to a sports club a couple of times a week and his fun times and good games have now degenerated into a bitch nightly aout a few dickheads there. She has seen some of the said dickheads and sees the worst in these dickheads and does not see any reason to see anything more in the people. That is her sole exposure.
Why would she not badmouth said dickheads and encourage spouse to move away and further try to extract spouse from said dickheads after firing a few barrages? Seriously, who would not? Are you saying that she should come on and read through all posts and learn the characters here and appreciate the culture and reserve judgement and question her spouse?
I think that is asking a bit much of anyone.
If Hyke or my kids were faced with anything that distressed them, I would not care to examine such things. I would look to condemn that which hurt them and seek to protect and move them away from that which hurts them. No brainer and it does not involve running an investigative reconnaisance of the situation. It just involves protecting them and getting them safe and clear.
That is real life of course.
I'm sure you're right, but Odeon made a post where he questioned what lies Steve has told Pandora. I replied to Odeon by saying what lies have been told about me.
I don't know for sure if the lies have came from Steve or Pandora, but I suspect they're from Steve.
I have no intention of getting into a debate with her about the lies, but neither am I going to pretend that what she is saying about me is true.
That is real life of course.
I would take it a step further and ask if the spouse should even give a shit what anonymous people on a message board are saying. It seems irrelevant to me, but my spouse doesn't do internet message boards and I couldn't imagine ever caring what went on between my wife and some message board she was involved in. If she was distressed by what was going on I would talk to her directly and in person and try and help her stop engaging all together. I wouldn't go online and try and defend her as the only way that would be remotely helpful would be if she were going to continue doing the things that I am actively trying to get her to stop doing. I can see that she is trying to help, but I think her actions are probably somewhat enabling.
Yes. I think her actions are likely to further cement Steves seriously warped mindset, when the most helpfull thing would be to give him a cold hard dose of reality.
