Whoa, I didn't know this was a forum for autistic people. Stupid of me to miss that. I guess I don't really belong then.
Nice sarcasm, but you should have looked around and seen how many callouts here have been made from autistic and NTs to other autistic and NT members. So no, the issue isn't that you don't really belong here. The issues are what I pointed out in the original post.
I'm glad that people don't find you annoying, but isn't part of autism not being to read other people? So you don't really know what they are thinking, do you?
First, I don't see how not being able to read other people means being annoying. You would need to explain how you made such a connection.
Secondly, no person can really know what others are thinking exactly. But some are better at judging what people are thinking than others regardless of whether NT or autistic.
I think you are being overly sensitive to my comments. The impression I got from this forum was that people insult each other for fun and the insulted people don't take it seriously. I guess new members aren't allowed this privilege.
Oh, but we've given you this privilege all you want. As a new member, you've insulted the whole autistic community by expressing how annoying autistic people can be ... and right in their faces even. And I personally take offense at you as a parent gossiping about your son and daughter with people who are really just strangers to you at this point because it reeks of you being so self-centered you just want to have the pleasure to gossip even at the expense of your own kids. Sounds like someone I personally know damn too well.
No, I'm not being overly sensitive to this. I just felt I had to call you out on what you've said that ticked me off somehow. It's you who seems quite a bit overly sensitive to what I said in the first post. If the impression you got from this forum was that people insult each other for fun, then why don't you feel fun now that you feel insulted?
Yes, we make fun of each other for fun at times, but we know when someone is insulting us or just simply teasing us. I do not think you were just teasing us with that "autistics can be very annoying" remark.
Autism is a spectrum and a lot of individuals with a range of symptoms are thrown in together with the same diagnosis, but each person is different. I have met a few people with Asperger's but of course I don't know as much about it as someone who has actually been diagnosed with it. According to wikipedia, one of the typical symptoms is "one-sided verbosity," which my niece demonstrates, and what I was referring to as being annoying.
And you automatically concluded she must be autistic. I see ...
One of the reasons that I joined this forum is so I can talk to people while remaining anonymous. I thought the people were quirky and it looked like a fun friendly place. I don't go on the internet to argue. Out of all the forums I could have joined, I picked this one because I liked the off-the-wall comments. I thought I was making new friends.
It seems you didn't realize that this forum is also a place where people call others out on their bullshit when they see one.
Maybe you should try another forum like WP.
I posted the information about my daughter because I was asked. It was anonymous so it doesn't hurt anyone. Maybe it isn't even true. Don't believe everything you read on the internet. I love my daughter. I am ashamed of her choices. People turn out the way they are for many reasons, not all of which are caused by bad parenting. Do you blame your parents for your autism? Have you been a parent? One thing I learned about being a parent is that you can teach and set a good example, but in the end the child's own character is going to determine their life choices.
This is pure rubbish talk. Autism is a genetic issue not a result of bad parenting. The case about your daughter is not necessarily purely genetic, and I doubt it is anyway. From what I've observed, most of the time, boys and girls who grow up to be messed up people within society are so exactly because of bad parenting (whether from the mother or the father or from both). What I see in your posts is you are willing to put all responsibility for your daughter being messed up on her and her alone without you taking one bit of responsibility for this as a parent. Remember, she wasn't always an adult in your life. Just some years ago, she was a kid constantly looking for support and care from her parents. As her parent, she was under your control and under your power. Correct? So there is some responsibility that should be placed on you as a parent for her personality and fucked up life. But you don't seem to accept this responsibility ... just like many other parents who end up with messed up children.
By the way, you wanted to talk about your daughter here. I don't think any of us led you to have to talk about your son and daughter in a gossipy fashion.
My son had to suffer needlessly from uninformed and misguided teachers. Maybe you had similar problems in school. Can you imagine being the parent watching your child suffer and not being able to take away the pain? I don't believe I insulted my son. The internet has been wonderful for him. The only thing you could interpret as negative was that I said he was autistic, but it is only negative if that is the way you choose to interpret it.
Yep, sure, so your son isn't among the annoying bunch that you mentioned. I wonder how I would've felt if one of my parents knew I had autism and said autistic people can be very annoying to random strangers.
I did not insult you personally like you have done to me. If you feel I have done you a disservice, I am truly sorry. I don't like confrontation, in person or in writing. If this is going to be an adversarial environment, I don't want to participate.
Did you really think this forum is just a picnic? Actually, you did personally insult not just me, but many others here. And you are insulting your kids in our presence. But no, I'm not being sensitive about this to the point that I want to leave and avoid confrontations. You are free not to reply here in this thread anymore, but don't expect people to take you easy when you say things that you should know would tick at least a few people here off.
